1) Knowing yourself
2) Identifying with others
3) Standing up for yourself

4) Managing feelings
5) Controlling impulses
6) Making Decisions
7) Being part of a community
The Seven Keys
1) Knowing yourself

Your Mind:
Learning style
Intelligences

Your Heart:
Temperament
What you love

Your Body:
Body Image
Sports and exercise type
Stress-response type

Your Soul:
Beliefs and values
Creative potential

Where you come from:
Personal and family history
History of your community

Where you're going:
Strengths and weaknesses

Setting goals
Reflecting on performance
Dealing with criticism
Self-esteem not self-centeredness

2) Identifying with others

Understanding feelings
Identifying/naming feelings
Mixed feelings
Feelings as relative/changing

Taking someone's point of view
Understanding motives
Predicting feelings
Responsibility for feelings

Showing you care
Paraphrasing
Asking open ended questions
Body Language

Resisting Stereotypes

3) Standing up for yourself

Understanding assertiveness
Assertive voice
Assertive posture
Assertive eyes
Assertive message
Assertive will - no reasons

Using assertive behavior
Communicating feelings
Resisting pressure
Setting limits
Stating a need
Making a complaint
Exercising rights
Standing up for beliefs
Confronting personal behavior
Confronting injustice

4) Managing feelings

Mindfulness/awareness
Physical sensations
Internal triggers - self talk
External triggers

Relaxation techniques
Expression of feelings
Letting go
Learning to Laugh
Practicing happiness

Dealing with specific feelings
Anger
Envy
Grief
Anxiety
Frustration
Disappointment
Jealousy
Discouragement
Sadness
Embarrassment
Shame

5) Controlling impulses

Stopping reactions
Predicting consequences

Dealing with specific impulses
Blurting out
Cheating
Hitting
Lying
Sexual impulses
Stealing

6) Making Decisions

Identifying the problem
Brainstorming options
Evaluating alternatives
Trying solutions and alternatives

Making specific decisions
Using drugs
Having sex
Carrying weapons
Being reckless
Lying
Running away
Cheating
Drinking
Smoking
Dealing drugs
Skipping school
Dropping out
Getting pregnant

7) Being part of a community

Communication skills
Introducing yourself
Having a conversation
Inviting
Expressing thanks
Expressing sympathy
Giving a compliment
Receiving a compliment
Making an apology
Ignoring

Group skills
Joining a group
Making space for others
Participating in group discussion
Resolving conflict
Dealing with authority
Getting help
Giving help
Sharing
Using community resources

Social Values
Courtesy
Fairness
Generosity
Honesty
Kindness
Justice
Reliability
Respect
Responsibility
Trust
Tolerance