melancholy of
the world is due to this realization, and most of the feeling of
pessimism and futility thus has its origin. Mortal man--a worm of
the earth--a brief flower doomed to perish--and all of it finds
final expression in Gray's marvelous words:
"The boast of heraldry, the pomp of pow'r, And all that beauty,
all that wealth e'er gave, Await alike the inevitable hour. The
paths of glory lead but to the grave."
[1] Hobbes made fear the most important motive
in the conduct of man.
"Why strive, thou poor creature, for wealth and power; sink
thyself in the, Godhead!" "Turn, turn from vain pursuits;
fame, the bubble, is bound to break as thou art." This is one
type of reaction against this fear,--for men react to the fear of
death variously. If man is mortal, God is not, and there is a life
everlasting. The life everlasting--whether a reality or not--is
conjured up and believed in by an effort to compensate for the fear
of death.
I have a son who, when he was three, manifested great emotion if
death were to enter in a story. "Will anything happen?"
he would ask, meaning, "Will death enter?" And if so,
he would beg not to have that story told. But when he was four,
he heard some one say that there were people who took old automobiles
apart, fixed up the parts and these were then placed in other automobiles.
"That's what God does to us," he cried triumphantly. "When
we die, He takes us apart and puts us into babies, and we live again."
Thereafter he would discuss death as fearlessly as he spoke of dinner,
and all his fears vanished. Here was a typical rationalization of
fear, one that has helped to shape religion, philosophies, ways
of living. And the widespread belief in immortality is a compensation
and a rationalization of the fear of death.
If some men rationalize in this fashion, others take directly opposite
means. "Eat, drink and be merry, for to-morrow we die."
The popularity of Omar Khayyam rests upon the aptness of his statement
of this side of the case of Man vs. Death, and many a man who never
heard of him has recklessly plunged into dissipation on the theory,
"a short life and a merry one." This is more truly a pessimism
than is the ascetic philosophy.
"Well, then, I must die," says another. "Oh, that
I might achieve before death comes!" So men, appalled by the
brief tenure of life and the haphazard way death strikes, work hard,
spurred on by the wish to leave a great work behind them. This work
becomes a Self, left behind, and here the fear of death is compensated
for by a little longer life in the form of achievement.
Many a father and mother, looking at their children, feel this as
part of their compensation for parenthood. "I shall die and
leave some one behind me," means, "I shall die and yet
I shall, in another form, live." Part of the incentive to parenthood,
in a time which knows how to prevent parenthood and which shirks
it as disagreeable, is the fear of death, of personal annihilation.
For there is in death a blow to one's pride, an indignity in this
annihilation,--Nothingness.
There is a still larger reaction to the fear of death. I have stated
that the feeling of likeness is part of the feeling of brotherhood
and in death is one of the three great likenesses of man. We are
born of the labor of our mothers, our days are full of strife and
trouble and we die. Men's minds have lingered on these facts. "Man
that is born of a woman, is of few days, and full of trouble."
Job did not add to this that he dies, but elsewhere it appears as
the bond for mankind. Reacting to this, the reflective minds of
the race have felt that here was the unity of man, here the basis
of a brotherhood. True, the Fatherhood of God was given as a logical
reason, but always in every appeal there is the note, "Do we
not all die? Why hate one another then?"
So to the fear of death, as with every other fear, man has reacted
basely and nobly. Man is the only animal that foresees death and
he is the only one to elaborate ethics and religion. There is more
than an accidental connection between these two facts.
Fear in its foreseeing character is termed worry. As a phase of
character, the liability to worry is of such importance that book
after book has dealt with the subject,--emphasizing the dangers,
the futility and cowardice of it. It is surely idle to tell people
not to worry who live continually on the brink of economic disaster,
or who are facing real danger. But there are types who find in every
possibility of injury a formidable threat, who are thrown into anguish
when they contemplate any evil, remote or unlikely as it may be.
The present and future are not faced with courage or equanimity;
they present themselves as a never-ending series of threats; threat
to health, to fortune, to family, reputation, everything. Horace
Fletcher called this type of forethought "fear thought."
Men and women, brave enough when face to face with actualities,
are cowards when confronting remote possibilities. The housewife
especially is one of these worriers, and her mind has an affinity
for the terrible. I have described her elsewhere,[1] but she has
her prototype among men.
[1] "The Nervous Housewife."
Fear of this type is an injury to the body and character both and
is one of the causes and effects of the widespread neurasthenia
of our day. For fear injures sleep, and this brings on fatigue and
fatigue breeds more fear, --a vicious circle indeed. Fear disturbs
digestion and the energy of the organism is thereby lowered. The
greatest damage by worry is done in the hypochondriac, the worrier
about health. Here, in addition to the effects of fear, introspection
and a minute attention to every pain and ache demoralize the character,
for the sufferer cannot pay attention to anything else. He becomes
selfish, ego-centric and without the wholesome interest in life
as an adventure. I doubt if there is enough good in too minute a
popular education on disease and health preservation. Morbid attention
to health often results, an evil worse than sickness.
Sometimes, instead of the indiscriminate fear of worry, there are
localized fears, called phobias, which creep or spring into a man's
thoughts and render him miserable. Thus there is fear of high places,
of low places, of darkness, of open places, of closed places,--fear
of dirt, fear of poison and of almost everything else. A bright
young man was locked, at the age of fourteen, in a closed dark shanty;
when released he rushed home in the greatest terror. Since then
he has been afflicted with a fear of leaving home. He dares venture
only about fifty feet and then is impelled to run back. If anybody
hinders his return he attacks them; if the door is locked he breaks
through a window. He is in a veritable panic, and yet presents no
other fears; is a reader and thinker, clever at his work (he is
a painter), but his fear remains inaccessible and uncontrollable.
Often one experience of this kind builds up an obsessive fear; the
associations left by the experience give the fear an open pathway
to consciousness, without any inhibiting power. As in this case,
the whole life of the individual becomes changed.
Throughout history the man without fear has been idolized. The hero
is courageous, that he must be; the coward is despised, whatever
good may be in him. Consequently, there is in most men a fear of
showing fear; and pride, self-respect, often urge men on when they
really fear. This pride is greater in some races than others--in
the Indian and the Anglo-Saxon--but the Oriental does not think
it wrong to be afraid. In the Great War this fear of showing fear
played a great role in producing shell shock, in that men shrank
from actual cowardice but easily developed neuroses which carried
them from the fighting line.
There is this to add to this little sketch of fear: it turns easily
to anger for both are responses to a threat. I remember in my boyhood
being mortally afraid of a larger boy who one day chased me, caught
me and started to "beat me up." Before I knew it, the
fear had gone and I was fighting him with such fierceness and fury
that in amazement he ran away. So a rat, cornered, becomes fierce
and blood-thirsty and there is always the danger, in the use of
fear as a weapon, that it become changed quite readily into the
fighting spirit.
7. Anger is a primitive reaction and is the backbone of the fighting
spirit. It tends to displace fear, though it may be combined with
it, in one of the most unhappy --because helpless--mental states.
Anger in its commonest form is a violent energizer and in the stiffened
muscles, the set jaw, bared teeth, and the forward-thrust head and
arms one sees the animal prepared to fight. Anger is aroused at
any obstruction, any threat or injury, from physical violences to
the so-called "slight." In fact, it is the intent of the
opponent as understood that makes up the stimulus to anger in the
human being. We forgive a blow if it is accidental, but even a touch,
if in malice or in contempt, arouses a fierce reaction.
We call becoming angry too readily "losing the temper,"
and there is a type known as the irascible in whom anger is the
readiest emotion. The bluff English squire, the man in authority,
is this type, and his anger lasts. In its lesser form anger becomes
irritability, a reaction common to the neurotic and the weak. When
anger is not frank, but manifests itself by a lowered brow and sidelong
look, we speak of sullenness or surliness. The sullen or surly person,
chronically ill-tempered and hostile, is regarded as unsocial and
dangerous, whereas the most lovable persons are quick to anger and
quick to repent.
As a man's anger, so is he. There are some whose anger is always
a reaction against interference with their comfort, their dignity,
their property and their will; it never by any chance is aroused
by the wrongs of others. Usually, however, these folk camouflage
their motive. "It's the principle of the thing I object to,"
is its commonest social disguise, which sometimes successfully hides
the real motive from the egoist himself. Wherever wills and purposes
meet in conflict, there anger, or its offshoot, contempt, is present,
and the more egoistic one is, the more egoistic the sources of anger.
The explosiveness of the anger will depend on the power of inhibition
and the power of the intelligence, as well as on the strength of
the opponent. There are enough whose temper is uncontrolled in the
presence of the weak who manage to be quite calm in the presence
of the strong. I believe there is much less difference amongst races
in this respect than we suspect, and there is more in tradition
and training. There was a time when it was perfectly proper for
a gentleman to lose his temper, but now that it is held "bad
form," most gentlemen manage to control it.
If it is common for men to become angry at ego-injury, there are
in this world, as its leaven of reform, noble spirits who become
angry at the wrongs of others. The world owes its progress to those
whose anger, sustained and intellectualized, becomes the power behind
reform; to those like Abraham Lincoln, who vowed to destroy slavery
because he saw a slave sold down the river; to the Pinels, outraged
by the treatment of the insane; to the sturdy "Indignant Citizen,"
who writes to newspapers about what "is none of his business,"
but who is too angry to keep still, and whose anger makes public
opinion. Whether anger is useful or not depends upon its cause and
the methods it employs. Righteous anger, whether against one's own
wrongs or the wrongs of others, is the hall-mark of the brave and
noble spirit; mean, egoistic anger is a great world danger, born
of prejudice and egoism. A violent-tempered child may be such because
he is outraged by wrong; if so, teach him control but do not tell
him in modern wishy-washy fashion that "one must never get
angry." Control it, intellectualize it, do not permit it to
destroy effectiveness, as it is prone to do; but it cannot be eliminated
without endangering personality.
Fear and anger have this in common: whenever the controlling energy
of the mind goes, as in illness, fatigue or early mental disease,
they become more prominent and uncontrolled. This cannot be overemphasized.
When a man (or woman) finds himself continually getting apprehensive
and irritable, then it is the time to ask, "What's the matter
with me," and to get expert opinion on the subject.
These two emotions are in more need of rationalizing and intelligent
control than the other emotions, for they are more explosive. Certainly
of anger it is truly said that "He who is master of himself
is greater than he who taketh a city." The angry man is disliked,
he arouses unpleasant feelings, he is unpopular and a nuisance and
a danger in the view of his fellows. The underlying idea underneath
courtesy and social regulations is to avoid anger and humiliation.
Controversial subjects are avoided, and one must not brag or display
concern because these things cause anger and disgust. Politeness
and tact are essential to turn away wrath, to avoid that ego injury
that brings anger.
We contrast with the brusque type, careless of whether he arouses
anger, the tactful, which conciliates by avoiding prejudice, and
which hates force and anger as unpleasant. Against the quick to
anger there is the slow type, whose anger may be enduring. We may
contrast egoistic anger with the altruistic and oppose the anger
which is effective with the anger that disturbs reason and judgment;
intellectual anger against brute anger. Rarely do men show anger
to their superiors; extreme provocation and desperation are necessary.
Men flare up easily against equals but more easily and with mingled
contempt against the inferior. Anger, though behind the fighting
spirit, need not bluster or storm; usually that is a "worked
up" condition intended in a naive way to frighten and intimidate,
or through disgust, to win a point. Anger is not necessarily courage,
which replaces it the higher up one goes in culture.
8. Disgust, also a primary emotion, is one of the basic reactions
of life and civilization. Literally "disagreeable taste,"
its facial expression, with mouth open and lower lip drawn down,[1]
is that preliminary to vomiting. We eject or retract when disgusted;
we are not afraid nor are we angry. We say "he--or she, or
it--makes me sick," and this is the stock phrase of disgust.
Inelegant as it is, it exactly expresses the situation. Disgust
easily mingles with fear and anger; it is often dispelled by curiosity
and interest, as in the morbid, as in medical science, and it of
ten displaces less intense curiosity and interest.
[1] See Darwin's "The Expression of Emotions
in Man and Animals," --a great book by a great man.
After anything has been accepted as standard in cleanliness, a deviation
in a "lower" direction causes disgust. Those who are accustomed
to clean tablecloths, clean linen are disgusted by dirty tablecloths,
dirty linen. The excreta of the body have been so effectively tabooed,
in the interest perhaps of sanitation, that their sight or smell
is disgusting, and they are used as symbols of disgust in everyday
language. Indeed, the so-called animal functions have to be decorated
and ceremonialized to avoid disgust. We turn with ridicule and repugnance
from him who eats without "manners" and one of the functions
of manners is to avoid arousing disgust.
Disgust kills desire and passion, and from that fact we may trace
a large part of moral progress. Satiety brings a slight disgust;
thus after a heavy meal there may be contentment but the sight of
food is not at all appealing and often enough rather repelling.
In the sex field, a deep repulsion is often felt when lust alone
has brought the man and woman together or when the situation is
illegal or unhallowed. With satisfaction of desire, the inhibiting
forces come to their own, and the violence of repentance and disgust
may be extreme. Stanley Hall, Havelock Ellis and other writers lay
stress on this; and, indeed, one of the bases of asceticism is this
disgust. Further, when we have no desires or passion, the sight
of others hugging and kissing, or acting "intimate" in
any way, is usually disgusting, an offense against "good taste"
based on the "bad taste" it arouses in the observer. In
memory we are often disgusted at what we did in the heat of desire,
but usually memory itself does not prevent us from repeating the
act; desire itself must slacken. Thus the old are often intensely
disgusted at the conduct of the young, and it is never wise for
a young couple to live with older people. For in the early days
of married life the intensity of the intimate feelings needs seclusion
in order to avoid disgusting others. It is no accident that Dame
Grundy is depicted as an elderly person with a "sour look";
her prudishness has an origin in disgust at that which she has outlived.
Sometimes the old are wise--not often enough--and then their humor,
love and sympathy keeps them from disgust.
Love counteracts disgust. The young girl who turns in loathing from
uncleanliness finds it easy and a pleasure to care for her soiled
baby. In fact, tender feeling of any kind overcomes--or tends to
overcome--disgust; and pity, the tenderest of all feelings and without
passion, impels us to march into the very jaws of disgust. The angry
may have no pity,--but they are not less unkind in commission than
the disgusted are unkind in omission. Thus a too refined breeding
leads people away from effective pity and that sturdiness of conduct
which is real philanthropy. Indeed, too much of refinement increases
the number of disgusting things in the world; he who must have this
or that luxury is not so much pleased with it as disgusted without
it. Raising standards in things material cannot increase the happiness
or contentment of the world, for it merely makes men impatient and
disgusted at lesser standards. We cannot hope to increase happiness
through the material improvements of civilization.
Self-disgust and shame are not identical but are so kindred that
shame may well be studied here. Shame is lowered self-valuation,
brought on by social or self-disapproval. Usually it is acute and,
like fear, it tends to make the individual hide or fly. It is based
on insight, and there are thus some who are never ashamed, simply
because they do not understand disapproval. Shame is essentially
a feeling of inferiority, and when we say to a man, "Shame
on you," we say, "You have done wrong, humble yourself,
be little!" When we say, "I am ashamed of you," we
say, "I had pride in you; I enlarged myself through you, and
now you make me little." When the community cries shame, it
uses a force that redresses wrong by the need of the one addressed
to vindicate himself. When a man feels shame he feels small, inferior
in his own eyes and in the eyes of others. He feels impelled, if
he is generous, to make amends or to do penance, and thus he recovers
his self-esteem. Unfortunately, shame arises more frequently and
often more violently from a violation of custom and manner than
from a violation of ethics or morals. Thus we are more ashamed of
the so-called "bad break" than of our failures to be kind.
Sometimes our fellow feeling is so strong that we avoid seeing any
one who is humiliated or embarrassed, because sympathy spreads his
feeling to us. Gentle people are those who dislike to shame any
one else, and often one of this type will endure being wronged rather
than reprimand or cause humiliation and shame. Let something be
said to shame any member of a company and a feeling of shame spreads
through the group, except in the case of those who are very hostile.
Disgust, too, is extremely contagious, especially its manifestations.
One of the most crude of all manifestations, to spit upon some one,
is a symbol taken from disgust, though it has come to mean contempt,
which is a mixture of hatred and disgust.
To raise the tastes and not raise the acquisitions is a sure way
to bring about chronic disgust, which is really an angry dissatisfaction
mixed with disgust. This type of reaction is very common as a factor
in neurasthenia. In fact, my motto is "search for the disgust"
in all cases of neurasthenia and "search for it in the intimate
often secret desires and relationships. Seek for it in the husband-wife
relationship, especially from the standpoint of the wife."
Women, we say, are more refined in their feelings than men, which
is another way of saying they are more easily disgusted and therefore
more easily injured. For disgust is an injury, when chronic or too
easily elicited, and is then a sign and symbol of weakness.
Thus disgust is a great reenforcer of social taboo and custom, as
well as morality. Just as it fails to keep us from eating the wrong
kind of foods, so it may fail to keep us from the wrong conduct.
Like every emotion it is only in part adapted to our lives, and
in those people where it becomes a prominent emotion it is a great
mischief worker, subordinating life to finickiness and hindering
the growth of generous feeling.
9. We come to two opposite emotions, very readily considered together.
One of the linkings of opposites is in the connection of Joy and
Sorrow. Whether these are primary emotions or outgrowths of Pleasure
and Pain I leave to others. For Shand the fact that Joy tends to
prolong a situation in which it occurs raises it into an active
emotion.
Joy is perhaps the most energizing of the emotions for it tends
to express itself in shouts, smiles and laughter, dancing and leaping.
Sorrow ordinarily is quite the reverse and expresses itself by immobility,
bowed head and hands that shut out from the view the sights of the
world. There is, however, a quiet joy called relief, which is like
sailing into a smooth, safe harbor after a tempestuous voyage; and
there is an agitated grief, with lamentation, the wringing of hands
and self-punishment of a frantic kind. Joy and triumph are closely
associated, sorrow and defeat likewise. There are some whose rivalry-competitive
feelings are so widespread that they cannot rejoice even at the
triumph of a friend, and a little of that nature is in even the
noblest of us. There are others who find sorrow in defeat of an
enemy, so widespread is their sympathy. This is the generous victor.
For the most of us youth is the most joyous period because youth
finds in its pleasures a novelty and freshness that tend to disappear
with experience. For the same reason the sorrow of youth, though
evanescent, is unreasoning and intense.
Joy and sorrow are reactions and they are noble or the reverse,
according to the nature of the person. Joy may be noble, sensuous,
trivial or mean; many a "jolly" person is such because
he has no real sympathy. At the present time not one of us could
rejoice over anything could we SEE and sympathize deeply with the
misery of Europe and China, to say nothing of that in our own country.
Nay, any wrong to others would blast all our pleasure, could we
really feel it. Fortunately only a few are so cursed with sympathy.
When the capacity for joyous feeling is joined with fortitude or
endurance, then we have the really cheerful, who spread their feeling
everywhere, whom all men love. Where cheerfulness is due to lack
of sympathy and understanding, we speak of a cheerful idiot; and
well does that type merit the name. There is a modern cult whose
followers sing "La, la, la" at all times and places, who
minimize all misfortune, crime, suffering, who find "good in
everything,"--the "Pollyana" tribe. My objection
to them is based on this,--that mankind must see clearly in order
to rid itself of unnecessary suffering. Hiding one's head (and brains)
in a desert of optimism merely perpetuates evil, even though one
sufferer here and there is deluded into happiness.
Sorrow may enrich the nature or it may embitter and narrow it. Wisdom
may spring from it; indeed, who can be wise who has not sorrowed?
Says Goethe:
"Wer nie sein Brot in Thranen ass Wer nie die kummervollen
Nachte Auf seinem Bette weinend sass Er weiss Euch nicht--himmelischen
Machte."
The afflicted in their sorrow may turn from self-seeking to God
and good deeds. But sorrow may come in a trivial nature from trivial
causes; the soul may be plunged into despair because one has been
denied a gift or a pleasure. The demonstrativeness of grief or sorrow
is not at all in proportion to the emotion felt; it is more often
based on the effort to get sympathy and help. For sorrow is "Help,
help" in one form or another, even though one refuses to be
comforted. All our emotions, because they are socially powerful,
become somewhat theatrical; in some completely theatrical. We are
so constituted that emotional display is not indifferent to us;
it pleases, repels, annoys, angers, frightens, disgusts or awes
us according to the kind of emotion displayed, the displayer and
the circumstances.
The psychologists speak of sympathy as this susceptibility to the
emotions of others, but there is an antipathy to their emotions,
as well. If we feel that our emotions will be "well received,"
we do not fear to display them, and therein is one of the uses of
the friend. If we feel that they will be poorly received, that they
will annoy or anger or disgust, we strive to repress them. The expression
of emotion, especially of fear and sorrow, has become synonymous
with weakness, and a powerful self-feeling operates against their
display, especially in adults, men and certain races. It is no accident
that the greatest actors are from the Latin and Hebrew races, for
there is a certain theatricality in fear and sorrow that those schooled
to repression lose. We resent what we call insincerity in emotional
expression because we fear being "fooled," and there are
many whose experiences in being "fooled" chill sympathy
with doubt. We resent insincere sympathy, on the other hand, because
we regret showing weakness before those to whom that weakness is
regarded as such and who perhaps rejoice at it as ridiculous. We
like the emotional expression of children because we can always
sympathize, through our tender feeling with them, and their very
sincerity pleases as well.
Is there a harm in the repression of emotion?[1] Is emotion a heaped-up
tension which, unless it is discharged, causes damage? Shall man
inhibit his anger, fear, joy, sorrow, disgust, at least in some
measure, or shall he express them in gesture, speech and act? The
answer is obvious: he must control them, and in that term control
we mean, not inhibition, not expression in its naive sense, but
that combination of inhibition, expression and intelligent act we
call adjustment. To express fear in the face of danger or anger
at an offense might thwart the whole life's purpose, might bring
disaster and ruin. The emotions are poor adjustments in their most
violent form, their natural form, and invite disaster by clouding
the intelligence and obscuring permanent purposes. Therefore, they
must be controlled. To establish this control is a primary function
of training and intelligence and does no harm unless carried to
excess. True, there is a relief in emotional expression, a wiping
out of sorrow by tears, an increase of the pleasure of joy in freely
laughing, a discharge of anger in the blow or the hot word, even
the profane word. There is a time and a place for these things,
and to get so "controlled" that one rarely laughs or shows
sadness or anger is to atrophy, to dry up. But the emotional expression
makes it easy to become an habitual weeper or stormer, makes it
easy to become the over-emotional type, whose reaction to life is
futile, undignified and a bodily injury. For emotion is in large
part a display of energy, and the overemotional rarely escape the
depleted neurasthenic state. In fact, hysteria and neurasthenia
are much more common in the races freely expressing emotion than
in the stolid, repressed races. Jew, Italian, French and Irish figure
much more largely than English, Scotch or Norwegian in the statistics
of neurasthenia and hysteria.
[1] Isador N. Coriat's book, "The Repression
of Emotions" deals with the subject from psychoanalytic. point
of view.
10. I have said but little on other emotions,--on admiration, surprise
and awe. This group of affective states is of great importance.
Surprise may be either agreeable or disagreeable and is our reaction
to the unexpected. Its expression, facially and of body, is quite
characteristic, with staring eyes and mouth slightly open, raised
eyebrows, hands hanging with fingers tensely spread apart, so that
a thing held therein is apt to drop. Surprise heightens the feeling
of internal tension, and in all excitement it is an element, in
that the novel brings excitement and surprise, whereas the accustomed
gives little excitement or surprises. In all wit and humor surprise
is part of the technique and constitutes part of the pleasure. Surprise
usually heightens the succeeding feeling, whether of joy, sorrow,
anger, fear, pleasure or pain, or in any form. But sometimes the
effect of surprise is so benumbing that an incapacity to feel, to
realize, is the most marked result and it is only afterward that
the proper emotion or feeling becomes manifest.
The reaction to the unexpected is an important adjustment in character.
There are situations beyond the power of any of us quickly to adjust
ourselves to and we expect the great catastrophe to surprise and
overwhelm. Nevertheless, we judge people by the way they react to
the unexpected; the man who rallies quickly from the confusion of
surprise is, we say, "cool-headed," keeps his wits about
him; and the man who does not so rally or adjust "loses his
head,"--"loses his wits." Part of this cool-headedness
is not only the rallying from surprise but also the throwing off
of fear. A warning has for its purpose, "Don't be surprised!"
and training must teach resources against the unexpected. "If
you expect everything you are armed against half the trouble of
the world." The cautious in character minimize the number of
surprises they may get by preparing. The impulsive, who rarely prepare,
are always in danger from the unforeseen. Aside from preparation
and knowledge, there is in the condition of the organism a big factor
in the reaction to the unexpected. Fatigue, neurasthenia, hysteria
and certain depressed conditions render a man more liable to react
excessively and badly to surprise. The tired soldier has lessened
resources in wit and courage when surprised, for fatigue heightens
the confusion and numbness of surprise and decreases the scope of
intelligent conduct. Choice is made difficult, and the neurasthenic
doubt is transformed to impotence by surprise.
Face to face with what is recognized as superior to ourselves in
a quality we hold to be good, we fall into that emotional state,
a mingling of surprise and pleasure, called admiration. In its original
usage, admiration meant wonder, and there is in all admiration something
of that feeling which is born in the presence of the superior. The
more profound the admiration, the greater is the proportion of wonder
in the feeling.
We find it difficult to admire where the competitive feeling is
strongly aroused, though there are some who can do so. It is the
essence of good sportsmanship, the ideal aimed at, to admire the
rival for his good qualities, though sticking fast to one's confidence
in oneself. The English and American athletes, perhaps also the
athletes of other countries, make this part of their code of conduct
and so are impelled to act in a way not entirely sincere. Wherever
jealousy or envy are strongly aroused, admiration is impossible,
and so it comes about that men find it easy to praise men in other
noncompetitive fields or for qualities in which they are not competing.
Thus an author may strongly admire an athlete or a novelist may
praise the historian; a beautiful woman admires another for her
learning, though with some reservation in her praise, and a successful
business man admires the self-sacrificing scientist, albeit there
is a little complacency in his approval.
He is truly generous-hearted who can admire his competitor. I do
not mean lip-admiration, through the fear of being held jealous.
Many a man joins in the praise of one who has outstripped him, with
envy gnawing at his heart, and waits for the first note of criticism
to get out the hammer. "He is very fine--but" is the formula,
and either through innuendo, insinuation or direct attack, the "subordinate"
statement becomes the most sincere and significant. But there are
those who can admire their conqueror, not only through the masochism
that lurks in all of us, but because they have lifted their ideal
of achievement and character higher than their own possibilities
and seek in others the perfection they cannot hope to have in themselves.
In other words, where competition is hopeless, in the presence of
the greatly superior, a feeling of humility which is really admiration
to the point of worship comes over us, and we can glory in the quality
we love. To admire is to recede the ego-feeling, is to feel oneself
in an ecstasy that becomes mystical, and in that sense the contradiction
arises that we feel ourselves larger in a unification with the admired
one.
Each age, each country, each group and each family set up the objects
and qualities for admiration, in a word, the ideals. Out of these
the individual selects his specialties in admiration, according
to his nature and training. All the world admires vigor, strength,
courage and endurance,--and these in their physical aspects. The
hero of all times has had these qualities: he is energetic, capable
of feats beyond the power of others, is fearless and bears his ills
with equanimity. Beauty, especially in the woman, but also in man,
has received an over-great share of homage, but here "tastes
differ." We have no difficulty in agreement on what constitutes
strength, and we have objective tests for its measurement; but who
can agree on beauty? What one race prizes as its fairest is scorned
by another race. We laugh at the ideal of beauty of the Hottentot,
and the physical peculiarity they praise most either disgusts or
amuses us. But what is there about a white skin more lovely than
a black one, and why thrill over blue eyes and neglect the brown
ones? What is the rationale for the admiration of slimness as against
stoutness? Indeed, there are races who would turn with scorn from
our slender debutante[1] and worship their more buxom heavy-busted
and wide-hipped beauties. The only "rational" beauty in
face and figure is that which stands as the outer mask of health,
vigor, intelligence and normal procreative function. The standards
set up in each age and place usually arise from local pride, from
the familiar type. The Mongolian who finds beauty in his slanting-eyed,
wide-cheek boned, yellow mate has as valid a sanction as the Anglo-Saxon
who worships at the shrine of his wide-eyed, straight-nosed blonde.
[1] The peasant type, greatly admired by the agricultural
folk of Central Europe, is stout and ruddy. This is a better ideal
of beauty than the lily-white, slender and dainty maid of the cultured,
who very often can neither work nor bear and nurse children.
When we leave
the physical qualities and pass to the mental we again find a lack
of agreement as to the admirable. All agree that intelligence is
to be admired, but how shall that intelligence be manifested? In
practice, the major part of the world admires the intelligence that
is financially and socially successful, and the rich and powerful
have the greatest share of the world's praise. Power, strength,
and superiority command admiration, even from the unwilling, and
the philosopher who stands aloof from the world and is without real
strength finds himself admiring a crude, bustling fellow ordering
men about. True, we admire such acknowledged great intelligences
as Plato, Galileo, Newton, Pascal, Darwin, etc., but in reality
only a fragment of the men and women of any country know anything
at all about these men, and the admiration of most is an acceptance
of the authority of others as to what it is proper to admire. Genuine
admiration is in proportion to the intelligence and idealism of
the admirer. And there are in this country a thousand intense admirers
of Babe Ruth and his mighty baseball club to one who pours out his
soul before the image of Pasteur. You may know a man (or woman)
not by his lip-homage, but by what he genuinely admires, by that
which evokes his real enthusiasm and praise. Judge by that and then
note that the most constant admiration of the women of our country
goes out to actresses, actors, professional beauties, with popular
authors and lecturers a bad second, and that of the men is evoked
by prize fighters, ball players and the rich. No wonder the problems
of the world find no solution, for it is only by fits and starts
that men and women admire real intelligence and real ability. The
orator has more admirers than the thinker, and this is the curse
of politics; the executive has more admirers than the research worker,
and this is the bane of industry; the entertainer is more admired
than the educator, and that is why Charlie Chaplin makes a million
a year and President Eliot received only a few thousand. The race
and the nation has its generous enthusiasms and its bursts of admiration
for the noble, but its real admiration it gives to those whom it
best understands. Fortunately the leaders of the race have more
of generosity and fine admiration than have the mass they lead.
Left to itself, the mass of the race limits its hero-worship to
the lesser, unworthy race of heroes.
The school histories, which should emphasize the admirable as well
as point out the reverse, have played a poor role in education.
The hero they depict is the warrior, and they fire the hearts of
the child with admiration and desire for emulation. They say almost
nothing of the great inventors, scientists and philanthropists.
The teaching of history should, above all, set up heroes for the
child to study, admire and emulate. "When the half-gods go
the gods arrive." The stage of history as taught is cluttered
with the tin-plate shedders of blood to the exclusion of the greater
men.[1]
[1] Plutarch's Lives are an example of the praise
and place given to the soldier and orator; and many a child, reading
them, has burned to be an Alexander or a Caesar. Wells' History,
with all its defects, pushes the "conquerors" to their
real place as enemies of the race.
When the object
that confronts us is so superior, so vast, that we sink into insignificance,
then admiration takes on a tinge of fear in the state or feeling
of awe. All men feel awe in the presence of strength and mystery,
so that the concept of God is that most wrapped up with this emotion,
and the ceremonies with which kings and institutions have been surrounded
strike awe by their magnificence and mystery into the hearts of
the governed. We contemplate natural objects, such as mountains,
mighty rivers and the oceans, with awe because we feel so little
and puny in comparison, and we do not "enjoy" contemplating
them because we hate to feel little. Or else we grow familiar with
them, and the awe disappears. The popular and the familiar are never
awe-full, and even death loses in dignity when one has dissected
a few bodies. So objects viewed by night or in gloom inspire awe,
though seen by day they are stripped of mystery and interest. To
the adolescent boy, woman is a creature to be regarded with awe,--beautiful,
strangely powerful and mysterious. To the grown-up man, enriched
and disillusioned by a few experiences, woman, though still loved,
is no longer worshiped.
Though the reverent spirit is admirable and poetic, it is not by
itself socially valuable. It has been played upon by every false
prophet, every enslaving institution. It prevents free inquiry;
it says to science, "Do not inquire here. They who believe
do not investigate. This is too holy a place for you." We who
believe in science deny that anything can be so holy that it can
be cheapened by light, and we believe that face to face with the
essential mysteries of life itself even the most assiduous and matter-of-fact
must feel awe. Man, the little, has probed into the secrets of the
universe of which he is a part. What he has learned, what he can
learn, make him bow his head with a reverence no worshiper of dogmatic
mysteries can ever feel.
CHAPTER X. COURAGE, RESIGNATION, SUBLIMATION, PATIENCE, THE WISH,
AND ANHEDONIA
In the preceding chapter we spoke of the feeling of energy and certain
of the basic emotions--such as fear, anger, joy, sorrow, disgust,
surprise and admiration. It is important to know that rarely does
a man react to any life situation in which the feeling of energy
is not an emotional constituent and governs in a general way that
reaction. Moreover, fear, anger, joy and the other feelings described
mingle with this energy feeling and so are built great systems of
the affective life.
1. Courage is one of these systems. It is not merely the absence
of fear that constitutes courage, though we interchange "fearless"
with "courageous." Frequently it is the conquest of fear
by the man himself that leads him to the highest courage. There
is a type of courage based on the lack of imagination, the inability
to see ahead the disaster that lurks around every corner. There
is another type of courage based on the philosophy that to lose
control of oneself is the greatest disaster. There are the nobly
proud, whose conception of "ought," of "noblesse
oblige," makes them the real aristocrats of the race.
The fierce, the predisposed to anger are usually courageous. Unrestrained
anger tends to break down imagination and foresight; caution disappears
and the smallest will attack the largest. In racial propaganda,
one way to arouse courage is to arouse anger. The enemy is represented
as all that is despicable and mean and as threatening the women
and children, religion, or the flag. It is not sufficient to arouse
hate, for hate may fear. While individuals of a fierce type may
be cowards, and the gentle often enough are heroes, the history
of the race shows that physical courage resides more with the fierce
races than with the gentle.
Those who feel themselves superior in strength and energy are much
more apt to be courageous than those who feel themselves inferior.
In fact, the latter have to force themselves to courage, whereas
the former's courage is spontaneous. Men do not fear to be alone
in a house as women do, largely because men feel themselves equal
to coping with intruders, who are sure to be men, while women do
not. One of the early signs of chronic sickness is a feeling of
fear, a loss of courage, based on a feeling of inferiority to emergencies.
The Spartans made it part of that development of courage for which
their name stands, to develop the physique of both their men and
women. Their example, in rational measure, should be followed by
all education, for courage is essential to nobility of character.
I emphasize that such training should be extended to both male and
female, for we cannot expect to have a timorous mother efficiently
educate her boy to be brave, to say nothing of the fact that her
own happiness and efficiency rest on courage.
Tradition is a mighty factor in the production of courage. To feel
that something is expected of one because one's ancestors lived
up to a high standard becomes a guiding feeling in life. Not to
be inferior, not to disappoint expectation, to maintain the tradition
that a "So-and-So" never shows the white feather, makes,
heroes of the soldiers of famous regiments, of firemen and policemen,
of priests, of the scions of distinguished families, aye, even of
races. To every man in the grip of a glorious tradition it seems
as if those back of him are not really dead, as if they stand with
him, and speak with his voice and act in his deeds. The doctor who
knows of the martyrs of his profession and knows that in the code
of his calling there are no diseases he must hesitate to face, goes
with equanimity where others who are braver in facing death of other
kinds do not dare to enter.
Courage is competitive, courage is cooperative, as is every other
phase of the mental life of men. We gather courage as we watch a
fellow worker face his danger with a brave spirit, for we will not
be outdone. Amour propre will not permit us to cringe or give in,
though we are weary to death of a struggle. But also we thrill with
a common feeling at the sight of the hero holding his own, we are
enthused by it, we wish to be with him; and his shining example
moves us to a fellowship in courage. We find courage in the belief
that others are "with us," whether that courage faces
physical or moral danger. To be "with" a man is to more
than double his resources of strength, intelligence and courage;
it is more than an addition, for it multiplies all his virtues and
eliminates his defects. The sum total is the Hero. I wonder if there
really ever has been a truly lonely hero, if always there has not
been some one who said, "I have faith in you; I am with you!"
If a man has lacked human backing, he has said to himself, "The
Highest of all is with me, though I seem to stand alone. God gives
me courage!"
In a profoundly intellectual way, courage depends on a feeling that
one is useful, not futile. Men lose courage, in the sense of brave
and determined effort, when it seems as if progress has ceased and
their place in the world has disappeared. This one sees frequently
in middle-aged men, who find themselves relegated to secondary places
by younger men, who feel that they are slipping and soon will be
dependents.
Hope, the foreseeing of a possible success, is necessary for most
courage, though now and then despair acts with a courage that is
largely pride. The idea of a future world has given more courage
to man in his difficulties than all other conceptions together,
for the essence of the belief in immortality is to transfer hope
and success from the tangle of this world to the clear, untroubled
heavenly other world.
2. Here we must consider other, related qualities. The office of
intelligence is to adjust man to a complex world, to furnish pathways
to a goal which instinct perhaps chooses. Suppose a goal reached,--say
marriage is entered upon with the one that we think is to give us
that satisfaction and happiness we long for. The marriage does not
so result, either because we have expected too much, or because
the partner falls below a reasonable expectation, or because contradictory
elements in the natures of the wedded pair cannot be reconciled.
Unity is not reached; disunion results, almost, let us say, from
the very start. What happens?
Many adjustments may take place. A crude one is that the pair, after
much quarreling, decide to separate or become divorced, or on a
still cruder, ignoble level, one or the other runs away, deserts
the family. A common adjustment, of an anti-social kind, forms the
basis of much of modern and ancient literature; the partners seek
compensation elsewhere, enter into illicit love affairs and maintain
a dual existence which rarely is peaceful or happy. Indeed, the
nature of the situation, with outraged conscience and fear of exposure,
prevents happiness.
But there are those who in such a situation do what is known as
"make the best of it." They avoid quarrels, they keep
up the pretense of affection, they seek to discover the good qualities
in the mate; they are, as we say, resigned to the situation. To
be resigned is to accept an evil with calmness and equanimity, but
without energy. Resignation and courage are closely related, though
the former is a rather pallid member of the family. The poor and
the miserable everywhere practise this virtue; the church has raised
it perforce to the most needed of qualities; it is a sort of policy
of nonresistance to the evils of the world and one's own lot.
But resignation represents only one type of legitimate adjustment,
of sublimation. By sublimation is meant the process of using the
energy of a repressed desire and purpose for some "higher"
end. Thus in the case of domestic unhappiness the man may plunge
himself deeply into work and even be unconscious of the source of
his energy. This type of adjustment is thus a form of compensation
and is seen everywhere. In the case of many a woman who gives herself
over to her children without stint you may find this sublimation
against the disappearance of romance, even if no actual unhappiness
exists. Where a woman is childless, perforce and not per will, an
intense communal activity often develops, leading to good if that
activity is intelligent, leading to harm if it is not. For sublimation
develops the crank and pest as well as the reformer. In every half-baked
reform movement you find those who are striving to sublimate for
a thwarted instinct or purpose.[1]
[1] The historian, Higginson, put it well when
he said substantially, "There is a fringe of insanity around
all reform."
Sublimation is the mark of the personality that will not admit defeat
even to itself. The one who does admit defeat becomes resigned or
seeks illicit compensation,--other men, other women, drink. Freud
and his followers believe that the neurasthenic or hysteric is striving
to find compensation through his symptoms or that he seeks to fly
from the situation that way. I believe that the symptoms of the
neurasthenic and hysteric often find a use in this way, but are
not caused by an effort for compensation. That is, a neurasthenic
may learn that his or her pains or aches give advantages in sympathy,
relief from hard tasks or disagreeable situations; that they cover
up or are an excuse for failure and inferiority,--but the symptoms
arise originally from defects in character or because of the physical
and social situation. Nevertheless, it is well to keep in mind,
when dealing with the "nervous," that often enough their
weaknesses are related to something they may gain through them.
This I have called elsewhere "Will to power through weakness,"
and it is as old as Adam and Eve. The weak have their wills and
their weapons as have the strong.
The highest sublimation, in the face of an insuperable obstacle
to purpose or an inescapable life situation, finds a socially useful
substitute in philanthropy, kindness, charity, achievement of all
sorts; the lowest seeks it in a direct but illicit compensation
for the self and in a way that merely increases the social and personal
confusion; and a pathological sublimation in part, at least, manifests
itself iii sickness. These are the three leading forms, but it must
be remembered that there are no pure types in character; a man may
sublimate nobly when his domestic happiness is threatened but cheat
when his business purposes are blocked; a woman may compensate finely
for childlessness but "go all to pieces" because hair
is growing on her face and the beauty she cherishes must go. Contradictions
of all sorts exist, and he is wise who does not expect too great
consistency from himself or others.
3. "Man," says Hocking, "can prolong the vestibule
of his desire through infinity." By the vestibule of desire
this philosopher means the deferring of satisfaction for any impulse
or desire. We love, but we can wait for love's fulfillment; we desire
achievement, but we can work and watch the approach of our goal.
Something we desire is directly ahead, almost in our reach,-- fame,
love, riches, vindication, anything you please from the sensuous
to the sublime satisfaction; and then an obstacle, a delay, appears,
and the vestibule is lengthened out. A man may even plan for the
satisfaction he can never hope to have, and in his greatest ideal
that vestibule reaches through eternity.
That quality which enables a man to work and wait, to stand the
deferring of hope and desire, is patience. The classic figure of
patience sitting on a monument is wrong, for she must sit on the
eager desires of man. Nor is patience only the virtue of the good
and farseeing, for we find patience in the rogue and schemer. Altruists
may be patient or impatient, and so may be the selfish. Like most
of the qualities, patience is to be judged by the company it keeps.
Nevertheless, the impatient are very often those of small purposes
and are rarely those of great achievement. For all great purposes
have to be spread over time, have to overcome obstacles, and these
must be met with courage and patience. Impatience is fussiness,
fretfulness and a prime breeder of neurasthenia. Patience is realistic,
and though it may seek perfection it puts up with imperfection as
a part of human life. But here I am drifting into an error against
which I warned the reader,--of making an entity of a conception.
People are patient or impatient, but not necessarily throughout.
There are men and women who fuss and fume over trifles who never
falter or fret when their larger purposes are blocked or deferred.
Some cannot stand detail who plan wisely and with patience. Vice
versa, there are meticulous folk, little people, whose petty obstacles
are met with patience and cheerfulness, who revel in minute detail,
but who want returns soon and cannot wait a long time. We are not
to ask of any man whether he is patient but rather what does he
stand or do patiently? What renders him impatient?
A form of impatience of enormous social importance is that which
manifests itself in cure-alls. A man finds that his will overcomes
some obstacles. Eager to apply this, he announces that will cures
all ills. Impatient of evil, men seek to annihilate it by denying
its existence or by loudly chanting that good thoughts will destroy
it. These are typical impatient solutions in the sphere of religion;
in the sphere of economics men urge nationalization, free trade,
socialism or laissez faire, or some law or other to change social
structure and human nature. War itself is the most impatient and
consequently most socially destructive method of the methods of
the treatment of evil.
While patience is a virtue, it may also be a vice. One may bear
wrongs too patiently or defer satisfaction too long. One meets every
day men and women who help injustice and iniquity by their patience.
We are too patient, at least with the wrongs of others; perhaps
we really do not feel this intensely or for any length of time.
In fact, the difficulty with most of the preaching of life is its
essential insincerity, for it counsels patience for that which it
feels but little. We bear the troubles of others, on the whole,
very well. Nevertheless, there are Griseldas everywhere whom one
would respect far more if they rebelled against their tyrants and
taskmasters. Organized wrong and oppression owe their existence
mainly to the habitual patience of the oppressed. To be meek and
mild and long-suffering in a world containing plenty of egoists
and cannibalistic types is to give them supremacy.[1] We admire
patience only when it is part of a plan of action, not when it is
the mark of a passive nature.
[1] Here the ideals of East and West clash. The
East, bearing a huge burden of misery and essentially pessimistic,
exhorts patience. The West, eager and full of hope, is impatient.
4. Because man
foresees he wishes. Rather than the reasoning animal, we might speak
of the human being as the wishing animal. An automatically working
instinct would produce no wish. The image of something which has
been experienced arouses an excitement akin to the secretion of
saliva at the thought of food. The wish which accompanies the excitement
is a dissatisfaction, a tingling, an incomplete pleasurable emotional
state which presses to action. Sensuous pleasure, power, conformity
to the ideal, whatever direction the wish takes, are sought because
of the wish. Right education is to train towards right wishing.
Because the wish is the prelude to action, it became all powerful
in mythology and superstition. Certain things would help you get
your wishes, others would obstruct them. Wishes became animate and
had power,--power to destroy an enemy, power to help a friend, power
to bring good to yourself. But certain ceremonies had to be observed,
and certain people, magicians and priests had to be utilized in
order to give the wish its power. Wisdom and magic were mainly the
ways of obtaining wishes. Childhood still holds to this, and prayer
is a faith that your wish, if placed before the All-Mighty, will
be fulfilled.
Since wishing brings a pleasurable excitement, it has its dangers,
in the daydream where wishes are fulfilled without effort. Power,
glory, beauty and admiration are obtained; the ugly Duckling becomes
the Swan, Cinderella becomes the Princess, Jack kills the Giant
and is honored by all men; the girl becomes the beauty and heroine
of romance; the boy becomes the Hero, taking over power, wealth
and beauty as his due. The world of romance is largely the wish-world,
as is the most of the stage. The happy ending is our wish-fulfillment,
and only the sophisticated and highly cultured object to it. Moulding
the world to the heart's desire has been the principal business
of stage, novel and song.
In the normal relations of life, the wish is the beginning of will,
as something definitely related to a future goal. He who wishes
finds his way to planning and to patient endeavor, IF training,
circumstances and essential character meet. To wish much is the
first step in acquiring much,--but only the first step. For many
it is almost the only step, and in the popular phrase these have
a "wishbone in the place of a backbone." They are the
daydreamers, the inveterate readers of novels, who carry into adult
life what is relatively normal in the child. The introspective are
this latter type; rarely indeed do the objective personalities spend
much time in wishing. Undoubtedly it is from the introspective that
the wish as a symbol and worker of power gained its influence and
meaning. This transformation of the wish to a power is found in
all primitive thought, in the power of the blessing and the curse,
in the delusions of certain of the insane who build up the belief
in their greatness out of the wish to be great; and in our days
New Thought and kindred beliefs are modernized forms of this ancient
fallacy.
It is a comforting thought to those who seek an optimistic point
of view that most men wish to do right. Very few, indeed, deliberately
wish to do wrong. But the difficulty lies in this, that this wish
to do right camouflages all their wishes, no matter what their essential
character. Thus the contestants on either side of any controversy
color as right their opposing wishes, and cruelties even if they
burn people at the stake for heresy, kill and ruin, degrade and
cheat, lie and steal. Thus has arisen the dictum, "The end
justifies the means." The good desired hallows the methods
used, and all kinds of evil have resulted. Practical wisdom believes
that up to a certain point you must seek your purpose with all the
methods at hand. But the temptation to go farther always operates;
a man starts to do something a little underhanded in behalf of his
noble wish and finds himself committed to conduct unqualifiedly
evil.
5. There are certain other emotional states associated with energy
and the energy feeling of great interest. What we call eagerness,
enthusiasm, passion, refers to the intensity of an instinct, wish,
desire or purpose. In childhood this energy is quite striking; it
is one of the great charms of childhood and is a trait all adults
envy. For it is the disappearance of passion, eagerness and enthusiasm
that is the tragedy of old age and which really constitutes getting
old. Youth anticipates with eagerness and relishes with keen satisfaction.
The enthusiasm of typical youth is easily aroused and sweeps it
on to action, a feature called impulsiveness. Sympathy, pity, hope,
sex feeling--all the self-feelings and all the other feelings--are
at once more lively and more demonstrative in youth, and thus it
is that in youth the reform spirit is at its height and recedes
as time goes on. What we call "experience" chills enthusiasm
and passion, but though hope deferred and a realization of the complexity
of human affairs has a moderating, inhibiting result, there is as
much or more importance to be attached to bodily changes. If you
could attach to the old man's experience and knowledge the body
of youth, with its fresher arteries, more resilient muscles and
joints, its exuberant glands and fresh bodily juices,--desire, passion,
enthusiasm would return. In the chemistry of life, passion and enthusiasm
arise; sickness, fatigue, experience and time are their antagonists.
This is not to deny that these energy manifestations can be aroused
from the outside. That is the purpose of teaching and preaching;
the purpose of writer and orator. There is a social spread of enthusiasm
that is the most marked feature of crowds and assemblies, and this
eagerness makes a unit of thousands of diverse personalities. Further,
the problem of awakening enthusiasm and desire is the therapeutic
problem of the physician and especially in the condition described
as anhedonia.
In anhedonia, as first described by Ribot, mentioned by James, and
which has recently been worked up by myself as a group of symptoms
in mental and nervous disease, as well as in life in general, there
is a characteristic lack of enthusiasm in anticipation and realization,
a lack of appetite and desire, a lack of satisfaction. Nothing appeals,
and the values drop out of existence. The victims of anhedonia at
first pass from one "pleasure" to another, hoping each
will please and satisfy, but it does not. Food, drink, work, play,
sex, music, art,--all have lost their savor. Restless, introspective,
with a feeling of unreality gripping at his heart, the patient finds
himself confronting a world that has lost meaning because it has
lost enthusiasm in desire and satisfaction.
How does this unhappy state arise? In the first place, from the
very start of life people differ in the quality of eagerness. There
is a wide variability in these qualities. Of two infants one will
call lustily for whatever he wants, show great glee in anticipating,
great eagerness in seeking, and a high degree of satisfaction when
his desire is gratified. And another will be lackadaisical in his
appetite, whimsical, "hard to please" and much more difficult
to keep pleased. Fatigue will strip the second child of the capacity
to eat and sleep, to say nothing of his desires for social pleasures,
whereas it will only dampen the zeal and eagerness of the first
child. There is a hearty simple type of person who is naively eager
and enthusiastic, full of desire, passion and enthusiasm, who finds
joy and satisfaction in simple things, whose purposes do not grow
stale or monotonous; there is a finicky type, easily displeased
and dissatisfied, laying weight on trifles, easily made anhedonic,
victims of any reduction in their own energy (which is on the whole
low) or of any disagreeable event. True, these sensitive folk are
creators of beauty and the esthetic, but also they are the victims
of the malady we are here discussing.
Aside from this temperament, training plays its part. I think it
a crime against childhood to make its joys complex or sophisticated.
Too much adult company and adult amusements are destructive of desire
and satisfaction to the child. A boy or girl whose wishes are at
once gratified gets none of the pleasure of effort and misses one
of the essential lessons of life.--that pleasure and satisfaction
must come from the chase and not from the quarry, from the struggle
and effort as well as from the goal. Montaigne, that wise skeptic,
lays much homely emphasis on this, as indeed all wise men do. But
too great a struggle, too desperate an effort, exhausts, and as
a runner lies panting and motionless at the tape, so we all have
seen men reach a desired place after untold privation and sacrifice
and who then found that there seemed to be no energy, no zeal or
desire, no satisfaction left for them. The too eager and enthusiastic
are exposed, like all the overemotional, to great recessions, great
ebbs, in the volume of their feeling and feel for a time the direst
pain in all experience, the death in life of anhedonia.
After an illness, particularly influenza, when recovery has seemingly
taken place, there develops a lack of energy feeling and the whole
syndrome of anhedonia which lasts until the subtle damage done by
the disease passes off. Half or more of the "nervousness"
in the world is based on actual physical trouble, and the rest relates
to temperament.
When a great purpose or desire has been built up, has drained all
the enthusiasm of the individual and then suddenly becomes blocked,
as in a love affair, or when a business is threatened or crashes
or when beauty starts to leave,--then one sees the syndrome of anhedonia
in essential purity. A great fear, or an obsessive moral struggle
(as when one fights hopelessly against temptation), has the same
effect. The enthusiasm of purpose and the eagerness of appetite
go at once, in certain delicate people, when pride is seriously
injured or when a once established superiority is crumbled. The
humiliated man is anhedonic, even if he is a philosopher.
The most striking cases are seen in men who have been swung from
humdrum existence to the exciting, disagreeable life of war and
then back to their former life. The former task cannot be taken
up or is carried on with great effort; the zest of things has disappeared,
and what was so longed for while in the service seems flat and stale,
especially if it is now realized that there are far more interesting
fields of effort. In a lesser degree, the romances that girls feed
on unfit them for sober realities, and the expectation of marriage
built up by romantic novel and theater do far more harm than good.
The triangle play or story is less mischievous than the one which
paints married life as an amorous glow.
One could write a volume on eagerness, enthusiasm and passion, satisfaction
and dissatisfaction. Life, to be worth the living, must have its
enthusiasms, must swing constantly from desire to satisfaction,
or else seems void and painful. Great purposes are the surest to
maintain enthusiasm, little purposes become flat. He who hitches
his wagon to a star must risk indeed, but there is a thrill to his
life outweighing the joy of minor success.
To reenthuse the apathetic is an individual problem. When the lowered
pressure of the energy feeling is physical in origin, then rest
and exercise, massage hydrotherapy, medicines (especially the bitter
tonics), change of scene are valuable. And even where the cause
is not in illness, these procedures have great value for in stimulating
the organism the function of enthusiasm is recharged. But one does
not neglect the value of new hopes, new interests, friendship, physical
pleasure and above all a new philosophy, a philosophy based on readjustment
and the nobility of struggle. Not all people can thus be reached,
for in some, perhaps many cases, the loss of these desires is the
beginning of mental disease, but patient effort and intelligent
sympathetic understanding still work their miracles.
CHAPTER XI. THE EVOLUTION OF CHARACTER WITH ESPECIAL REFERENCE
TO THE GROWTH OF PURPOSE AND PERSONALITY
There have been various philosophies dealing with the purposes of
man. Man seeks this or that--the eternal good, beauty, happiness,
pleasure, survival--but always he is represented as a seeker. A
very popular doctrine, Hedonism, now somewhat in disfavor, represents
him as seeking pleasurable, affective states. The difficulty of
understanding the essential nature of pleasure and pain, the fact
that what is pleasure to one man is pain to another, rather discredited
this as a psychological explanation. I think we may phrase the situation
fairly on an empirical basis when we say that seeking arises in
instinct but receives its impulse to continuity by some agreeable
affective state of satisfaction. Man steers towards pleasure and
satisfaction of some type or other, but the force is the unbalance
of an instinct.
When we speak of man as a seeker, we are not separating him from
the rest of living things. All life seeks, and the more mobile a
living thing is the more it seeks. A sessile mussel chained to a
rock seeks little but the fundamentals of nutrition and generation
and these in a simple way. An animal that builds habitations for
its young, courts its mate, plays, teaches and fights, may do nothing
more than seek nutrition and generation, but it seeks these through
many intermediary "end" points, through many impulses,
and thus it has many types of satisfaction. When a creature develops
to the point that it establishes all kinds of rules governing conduct,
when it establishes sanctions that are eternal and has purposes
that have a terminus in a hereafter which is out of the span of
life of the planner, it becomes quite difficult to say just what
it is man seeks. In fact, every man seeks many things, many satisfactions,
and whatever it may be that Man in the abstract seeks, individual
men differ very decidedly not only as to what they seek but as to
what should be sought.
Our viscera, our tissues, as they function, change by the using
up of energy and the breaking down of materials. That change brings
about sensory disturbances in our body which are not unpleasant
in moderation, which we call hunger, thirst and fatigue. To relieve
these three primitive states we seek food, drink and rest; we DESIRE
food, drink and rest. Desire then is primitive, organic, arising
mainly in the vegetative nervous system, and it awakens mechanisms
that bring us food, drink and rest. A feeling which we call satisfaction
results when the changes in the viscera and tissues are readjusted
or on the way to readjustment. Here is the simplest paradigm for
desire seeking satisfaction, but it is on a plane rarely found in
man, because his life is too complicated for such formulae to work.
Food must be bought or produced, and this involves cooperation,
competition, self-denial, thrift, science, finance, invention. It
involves ethics, because though you are hungry you must not steal
food or give improper value for it. Moreover, though you are hungry,
you have developed tastes, manners, etc., and you cannot, must not
eat this or that (through religion); you mast eat with certain implements),
and would rather die than violate the established standards in such
matters.[1] Thus to the simple act of eating, to the satisfaction
of a primitive desire set up by a primitive need, there are any
number of obstacles set up by the complexities of our social existence.
The sanction of these obstacles, their power to influence us, rests
in other desires and purposes arising out of other "needs"
of our nature. What are those needs? They are inherent in what has
been called the social instincts, in that side of our nature which
makes us yearn for approval and swings us into conformity with a
group. The group organizes the activities of its individuals just
as an individual organizes his activities. The evolutionists explain
this group feeling as part of the equipment necessary for survival.
Perhaps this is an adequate account of the situation, but the strength
of the social instincts almost lead one to a more mystical explanation,
a sort of acceptance of the group as the unit and the individual
as an incomplete fragment.
[1] The Sepoy Rebellion had its roots in a food
taboo, and Mussulman, Hebrew and Roman Catholic place a religious
value on diet. Most of the complexities of existence are of our
own creation.
What is true
of hunger is true of thirst and fatigue. Desires in these directions
have to accommodate themselves, in greater or lesser degrees, to
the complexities in which our social nature and customs have involved
us. It is true that desires upon which the actual survival of the
individual depend will finally break through taboo and restriction
if completely balked. That is, very few people will actually starve
to death, die of thirst or keep awake indefinitely, despite any
convention or taboo. Nevertheless there are people who will resist
these fundamental desires, as in the case of MacSwiney, the Irish
republican, and as in the case of martyrs recorded in the history
of all peoples. It may be that in some of these we are dealing with
a powerful inhibition of appetite of the kind seen in anhedonia.
The elaboration of the sex impulses and desires into the purposes
of marriage, the repression into lifelong continence and chastity,
forms one of the most marvelous of chapters in the psychological
history of man. The desire for sex relationship of the crude kind
is very variable both in force, time of appearance and reaction
to discipline and unquestionably arises from the changes in the
sex organs. Both to enhance and repress it are aims of the culture
and custom of each group, and the lower groups have given actual
sexual intercourse a mystical supernatural value that has at times
and in various places raised it into the basis of cults and religions.
Repressed, hampered, canalized, forbidden, the sex impulses have
profoundly modified clothes, art, religion, morals and philosophy.
The sex customs of any nation demonstrate the extreme plasticity
of human desires and the various twists, turns and customs that
tradition declares holy. There have been whole groups of people
that have deemed any sexual pleasure unholy, and the great religions
still deem it necessary for their leaders to be continent. And the
absurdities of modesty, a modified sex impulse, have made it immoral
for a woman to show her leg above the calf while in her street clothes,[1]
though she may wear a bathing suit without reproach.
[1] This is, of course, not quite so true in 1921
as in 1910.
Whatever a desire is basically, it tends quickly to organize itself
in character. It gathers to itself emotions, sentiments, intelligence;
it plans and it wills, it battles against other desires. I say IT,
as if the desire were an entity, a personality, but what I mean
is that the somatic and cerebral activities of a desire become so
organized as to operate as a unit. A permanent excitability of these
nervous centers as a unit is engendered, and these are easily aroused
either by a stimulus from the body or from without. Thus the sex
impulse arises directly from tensions within the sex organs but
is built up and elaborated by approval of and admiration for beauty,
strength and intelligence, by the desire for possession and mastery,
by competitive feeling, until it may become drawn out into the elaborate
purpose of marriage or the family.
What is the ego that desires and plans? I do not know, but if it
is in any part a metaphysical entity of permanent nature in so far
it does not become the subject matter of this book. For as a metaphysical
entity it is uncontrollable, and the object of science is to discover
and utilize the controllable elements of the world. I may point
out that even those philosophers and theologians to whom the ego
is an entity of supernatural origin deny their own standpoint every
time they seek to convince, persuade or force the ego of some one
to a new belief or new line of action; deny it every time they say,
"I am tired and I shall rest; then I shall think better and
can plan better." Such a philosopher says in essence, "I
have an entity within me totally and incommensurably different from
my body," and then he goes on to prove that this entity operates
better when the body is rested and fed than otherwise!
For us the ego is a built-up structure and has its evolution from
the diffuse state of early infancy to the intense, well-defined
state of maturity; it is elaborated by a process that is in part
due to the environment, in part to the inherent structure of man.
We may postulate a continuous excitement of nerve centers as its
basis, and this excitement cognizes other excitement in some mysterious
manner, but no more mysterious than life, instinct or intelligence
are. These excitements struggle for the possession of an outlet
in action, and this is what we call competing desires, struggle
against temptation, etc.
Sometimes one desire is identified with the ego as part of itself,
sometimes the desire is contrasted with the ego and we say, "I
struggled with the desire but it overcame me." Common language
plainly shows the plurality of the personality, even though the
man on the street thinks of himself as a united "I," even
an invisible "I."
One of the fundamental desires, nay the fundamental desire, is the
expansion of the self, i. e., increased self-esteem. When the infant
sprawls in his basket after his arrival in this world, it is doubtful
if he has a "me" which he separates from the "non-me."
Yet that same infant, a few years later, and through the rest of
his life, believes that in his personality resides something immortal,
and has as his prime pleasure the feeling of worth and growth of
that personality, and as his worst hurt the feeling of decay and
inferiority of that personality.
Let us watch that infant as it sprawls in its little bed, the darling
of a pair of worshiping parents. In that relationship the child
is no solitary individual; society is there already, watching him,
nourishing and teaching him. Already he is in the, hands of his
group who, though seeking his happiness, are nevertheless determined
that he shall obtain it their way. And from then to the end of his
life that group will in large measure offer him the criteria of
values, and his self-esteem will, in the majority of cases, rest
upon his idea of their esteem of him. In the brooding mother, in
the tender father lie dormant all the judgments of the time on the
conduct and guiding motives of the little one.
The baby throws his arms about, kicks his legs, rolls his eyes.
In these movements arising from internal activities which, we can
only state, relate to vascular distribution, neuronic relations,
visceral and endocrinic activities, is the germ of the impulse to
activity which it is the function of society and the individual
himself to shape into organized useful work. Thus is manifested
a native, inherent, potentiality, which we may call the energy of
the baby, the energy of man, a something which the environment shapes,
but which is created in the laboratory of the individual. The father
and mother are delighted with the fine vigorous
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