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almost synonymous.
Of course, what constitutes monotony will differ in the viewpoint of
each person, for some are so constituted and habituated (for habit is
a great factor) that it takes but few stimuli to arouse a well-sustained
interest, and others need or think they need many things, a constantly
changing set of circumstances for pleasure.
[1] Stanley Hall, in his book "Adolescence,"
lays great stress on monotony and its effects. See also Graham Wallas'
"The Great Society."
Restlessness, eager searching for change, intense dissatisfaction are
the natural fruit of monotony. Here is an important item in the problems
of our times. Side by side with growth of the cities and their excitement
is the growing monotony of most labor. The factory, with its specialized
production, reduces the worker to a cog in the machinery. In some factories,
in the name of efficiency, the windows are whitewashed so that the outside
world is shut out and talking is prohibited; the worker passes his day
performing his unvaried task from morning to night. Under such circumstances
there arises either a burning sense of wrong, of injustice, of slavery
and a thwarting of the individual dignity, or else a yearning for the
end of the day, for dancing, drinking, gambling, for anything that offers
excitement. Or perhaps both reactions are combined. Our industrial world
is poorly organized economically, as witness the poor distribution of
wealth and the periodic crises, but it is abominably organized from
the standpoint of the happiness of the worker. Of this, more in another
place.
Monotony brings fatigue, because there is a shutting out of the excitement
that acts as an antidote to fatigue-feeling. A man who works without
fatigue six days a week is tired all day Sunday and longs for Monday.
The modern housewife,[1] with her four walls and the unending, uninteresting
tasks, is worn out, and her fatigue reaction is the greater the more
her previous life has been exciting and varied. Fatigue often enough
is present not because of the work done but because the STIMULUS TO
WORK HAS DISAPPEARED. Monotony is an enemy of character. Variety, in
its normal aspect, is not only the spice of life; it is a great need.
Stabilization of purpose and work are necessary, but a standardization
that stamps out the excitement of variety is a deadly blow to human
happiness.
[1] See my book "The Nervous Housewife!"
Under monotony certain types of personalities develop an intense inner
life, which may be pathological, or it may be exceedingly fruitful of
productive thought.
Some build up a delusional thought and feeling. For delusion merely
means uncorrected thought and belief, and we can only correct by contact
and collision. The whole outer world may vanish or become hostile and
true mental disease develop. Perhaps it is more nearly correct to say
that minds predisposed to mental disease find in monotony a circumstance
favoring disease.
On the other hand, a vigorous mind shut out from outer stimuli[1] finds
in this circumstance the time to develop leisurely, finds a freedom
from distraction that leads to clear views of life and a proper expression.
A periodic retirement from the busy, too-busy world is necessary for
the thinker that he may digest his material, that he may strip away
unessential beliefs, that he may find what it is he really needs, strives
for and ought to have.
[1] Perhaps this is why real genius does not flourish
in our crowded, over-busy days, despite the great amount of talent.
4. Here we come to another corollary of the need for excitement, the
need of relaxation. At any rate, satisfaction and pleasure need periods
of hunger in order to be felt. In the story of Buddha he is represented
as being shielded from all sorrow and pain, living a life filled with
pleasure and excitement, yet he sought out pain. So excitement, if too
long continued--or rather if a situation that produces excitement of
a pleasurable kind be too long endured--will result in boredom. "Things
get to be the same," whether it be the excitement of love, the
city, sports or what not. This is a basic law of all pleasures. In order
that life may have zest, that excitement may be easily and pleasurably
evoked and by normal means, we need relaxation, periods free from excitement,
or we must pass on to a costly chase for excitement that brings breakdown
of the character.
5. If the seeking of excitement, as such, is one of the prime pleasures
of life, organized excitement in the form of interest is the directing
and guiding principle of activity. At the outset of life interest is
in the main involuntary and is aroused by the sights, sounds and happenings
of the outer world. As time goes on, as the organism develops, as memories
of past experiences become active, as peculiarities of personality develop,
and as instincts reach activity, interest commences to take definite
direction, to become canalized, so to speak. In fact, the development
of interest is from the diffuse involuntary form of early childhood
to a specialization, a condensation into definite voluntary channels.
This development goes on unevenly, and is a very variable feature in
the lives of all of us. Great ability expresses itself in a sustained
interest; a narrow character is one with overdeformed, too narrow interest;
failure is often the retention of the childish character of diffuse,
involuntary interest. And the capacity to sustain interest depends not
only on the special strength of the various abilities of the individual,
but remarkably on his energy and health. Sustained "voluntary"
interest is far more fatiguing than involuntary interest, and where
fatigue is already present it becomes difficult and perhaps impossible.
Thus after much work, whether physical or mental, during and after illness--especially
in influenza, in neurasthenic states generally, or where there is an
inner conflict--interest in its adult form is at a low ebb.
There are two main directions which interest may take, because there
are two worlds in which we live. There is the inner world of our feelings,
our thoughts, our desires and our struggles,[1]--and there is the outer
world, with its people, its things, its hostilities, its friendships,
its problems and facts, its attractions and repulsions. Man divides
his interest between the two worlds, for in both of them are the values
of existence. The chief source of voluntary interest lies in desire
and value, and though these are frequently in coalescence, so that the
thing we desire is the thing we value, more often they are not in coalescence
and then we have the divided self that James so eloquently describes.
So there are types of men to whom the outer world, whether it is in
its "other people," or its things, or its facts, or its attractions
and repulsions, is the chief source of interest and these are the objective
types, exteriorized folks, whose values lie in the goods they can accumulate,
or the people they can help, or the external power they exercise, or
the knowledge they possess of the phenomena of the world, or the things
they can do with their hands. These are on the whole healthy-minded,
finding in their pursuits and interest a real value, rarely stopping
from their work to ask, "Why do I work? To what end? Are things
real?" Contrasted with them are those whose gaze is turned inward,
who move through life carrying on the activities of the average existence
but absorbed in their thoughts, their emotions, their desires, their
conflicts,--perhaps on their sensations and coenaesthetic streams. Though
there is no sharp line of division between the two types, and all of
us are blends in varying degrees, these latter are the subjective introspective
folk, interiorized, living in the microcosmos, and much more apt than
the objective minded to be "sick souls" obsessed with "whys
and wherefores." They are endlessly putting to themselves unanswerable
questions, are apt to be the mentally unbalanced, or, but now and then,
they furnish the race with one whose answers to the meaning of life
and the direction of efforts guide the steps of millions.
[1] Herbert Spencer's description of these two worlds is the best in
literature. "Principles of Psychology."
There is a good and a bad side to the two types of interest. The objective
minded conquer the world in dealing with what they call reality. They
bridge the water and dig up the earth; they invent, they plow, they
sell and buy, they produce and distribute wealth, and they deal with
the education that teaches how to do all these things. They find in
the outer world an unalterable sense of reality, and they tend rather
naively to accept themselves, their interests and efforts as normal.
In their highest forms they are the scientist, reducing to law this
tangle of outer realities, or the artist, who though he is a hybrid
with deep subjective and objective interest, nevertheless remodels the
outer world to his concept of beauty. These objective-minded folk, the
bulk of the brawn and in lesser degree of the brain of the world, are
apt to be "materialists," to value mainly quantity and to
be self-complacent. Of course, since no man is purely objective, there
come to them as to all moments of brooding over the eggs of their inner
life, when they wonder whether they have reached out for the right things
and whether the goods they seek or have are worth while. Such introspective
interest comes on them when they are alone and the outer world does
not reach in, or when they have witnessed death and misfortune, or when
sickness and fatigue have reduced them to a feeling of weakness. For
it is true that the objective minded are more often robust, hearty,
with more natural lust, passion and desire than your introspectionists,
more virile and less sensitive to fine impressions.
The introspectionists, culling, chewing the cud of their experiences
and sensations, find in their own reactions the realities. In fact,
interested in consciousness, they are sometimes bold enough to deny
the realities of anything else. Where the others build bridges, they
build up the ideas of eternal good and bad, of beauty, of the transitory
and the permanent, of now and eternity. They deal with abstract ideas,
and they luxuriate in emotions. They build up beliefs where thought
is the only reality and is omnipotent. They are the founders of religious,
cults, fads and fancies. They inculcate the permanent ideals, because
they are the only ones who interest themselves in something beside the
show of the universe.
But too often they are the sick folk. Without the hardihood and the
energy to conquer the outer world, they fall back on a world requiring
less energy to study, less energy to conquer. Sometimes they develop
a sense of unreality which vitiates all their efforts to succeed; or
they become hypochondriacs, feeling every flutter of the heart and every
vague ache and pain. The Hamlet doubting type is an introspectionist
and oscillates in his mind from yea to nay on every question. Such as
this type develop ideas of compensation and power and become cranks
and fake prophets. Or else, and this we shall see again, they become
imbued with a sense of inferiority, feel futile as against the red-blooded
and shrink from others through pain.
Everywhere one sees these phases of interest in antagonism and cooperation.
The "healthy-minded" acknowledge the leadership of a past
introspectionist but despise the contemporary one as futile and light-headed.
The introverted (to use a Freudian term) call the others Philistines,
and mock them for their lack of spiritual insight, yet in everything
they do they depend for aid and sustenance upon them. Introspection
gives no exact measurements of value, but it gives value and without
it, there can be no wisdom. But always it needs the correction of the
outer world to keep it healthy.
While we have dealt here with the extremes of extrospection and introspection,
it is safe to say that in the vast majority of people there is a definite
and unassailable interest in both of these directions. Interest in others
is not altruism and interest in the self is not self-interest or egoism.
But, on the whole, they who are not interested in others never become
philanthropists; they who are not interested in things never become
savants; and they who do not dig deep into themselves are not philosophers.
There are, therefore, certain practical aspects to the study of interest
which are essential parts of the knowledge of character.
1. Is the interest of the one studied controlled by some purpose or
purposes, or is it diffuse, involuntary, not well directed?
2. Is it narrow, so that it excludes the greater part of the world,
or is it easily evoked by a multiplicity of things? In the breadth of
interest is contained the breadth of character, but not necessarily
its intensity or efficiency. There are people of narrow but intense
successful interest, and others of broad, intense successful interest,
but one meets, too frequently, people quickly interested in anything,
but not for long or in a practical fashion. There is a certain high
type of failure that has this difficulty.
3. Is its main trend outward, and if so, is there some special feature
or features of the world that excite interest?
4. Is its main trend inward, and is he interested in emotions, thoughts,
sensations,--In his mind or his body, in ideas or in feelings? For it
is obvious that the man interested in his ideas is quite a different
person than he who is keenly aware of his emotions, and that the hypochondriac
belongs in a class by himself.
5. If there are special interests, how do these harmonize with ability
and with well-defined plan and purpose. It is not sufficient to be keenly
interested, though that is necessary. One of the greatest disharmonies
of life is when a man is interested when he is not proficient, though
usually proficiency develops interest because it gives superiority and
achievement.
Interest is heightened by the success of others, for we are naturally
competitive creatures, or by admiration for those successful in any
line of activity. The desire to emulate or excel or to get power is
a mighty factor in the maintenance of interest. "See how nicely
Georgie does it," is a formula for both children and adults, and
if omitted, interest would not be easily aroused or maintained. In other
words, the competitive feeling and desire in its largest sense are necessary
for the concentrated excitement of interest. So any scheme of social
organization that proposes to do away with competition and desire for
superiority labors under the psychological handicap of removing the
basis of much of the interest in work and study and must find some substitute
for the lacking incentives before it can seriously ask for the adherence
of those with a realistic view of human nature. One might, it is true,
establish traditions of work, bring about a livelier social conscience
as to service, but these are not sufficient to arouse real interest
in the vast majority of the race. Here and there one finds a man in
whom interest is aroused by the unsolved problem, by the reward of fame
and the pleasure of achievement, but such persons are rare. The average
man (and woman), in my experience, loses interest in anything that does
not directly benefit him or in which his personal competitive feeling
is not aroused. Interest becomes vague and ill-defined the farther the
matter concerned is from the direct personal good of the individual,
and proportionately it becomes difficult to sustain it.
That is why in our day "dollars and cents" appeals to interest
are made; away with abstracts, away with sentiment; the publicity man
working for a good cause now uses the methods of the man selling shoes
or automobiles: he attempts to show that one's interest and cooperation
are demanded and necessary because one's direct personal welfare is
involved. Whether or not ethically justifiable, it is a recognition
of the fact that interest is aroused and sustained, for the majority,
by some direct personal involvement.
Thus in education, a fact to be learned, or a subject to be studied,
should be first sketched or placed in some use value to the student.
Knowledge for knowledge's sake is appealing only to the rare scholar,
he who palpitates with interest over the relationship of things to one
another, he who seeks to discover values. Now and then one finds such
a person, one thrown into sustained excitement by learning, but the
great majority of students, whether in medicine, law or mathematics,
are "practical," meaning that their interests are relatively
narrow and the good they seek an immediate one to be reaped by themselves.
Recognizing this fact in the abstract, the most of teaching is conducted
on the plane of the real scholar, and the average student is left to
find values for himself. From first to last in teaching I would emphasize
usevalue; true, I would seek to broaden the conception of usevalue,
so that a student would see that usefulness is a social value, but no
matter how abstract and remote the subject, its relationship to usefulness
would be preliminary and continuously emphasized in order to sustain
interest.
Interest, like any other form of excitement, needs new stimuli and periods
of relaxation. People under the driving force of necessity continue
at their work for longer periods of time and more constantly than is
psychologically possible for the maintaining of interest. So it disappears,
and then fatigue sets in at once,--a fatigue that is increased by the
effort to work and the regret and rebellion at the change. The memory
seems to suffer and a fear is aroused that "I am losing my memory";
the threat to success brings anguish and often the health becomes definitely
impaired. Overconcentrated, too long maintenance of interest brings
apathy,--an apathy that cannot be dispelled except by change and rest.
Here there is wide individual variation from those who need frequent
change and relaxation periods to those who can maintain interest in
a task almost indefinitely.
A hobby, or a secondary object of interest, is therefore a real necessity
to the man or woman battling for a purpose, whose interest must be sustained.
It acts to relax, to shift the excitement and to allow something of
the feeling of novelty as one reapproaches the task.
As a matter of fact, excitement and interest are not easily separated
from their derivatives and elaborations. Desire, purpose, ambition,
imply a force; interest implies a direction for that force. Interest
may be as casual as curiosity aroused by the novel and strange, or as
deep-seated and specialized as a talent. The born teacher is he who
knows how to arouse and maintain and direct interest; the born achiever
is the man whose interest, quickly aroused, is easily maintained and
directs effort. To find the activity that is natively interesting and
yet suited to one's ability is the aim in vocational guidance.
There are some curious pathological aspects to interest --"conflict"
aspects of the subject. A man finds himself palpitatingly interested
in what is horrible to him, as a bird is fascinated by a snake. Sex
abnormalities have a marvelous interest to everybody, although many
will not admit it. Stories of crime and bloodshed are read by everybody
with great avidity,--and people will go miles to the site of grim tragedy.
Court rooms are packed whenever a horrible murder is aired or a nauseating
divorce scandal is tried. A chaste woman will read, on the sly and with
inner rebellion, as many pornographic tales as she can get hold of,
and the "carefully" brought up, i. e., those whose interest
has been carefully directed, suddenly become interested in the forbidden;
they seek to peek through windows when they should be looking straight
ahead.
As a matter of fact, interest is as much inhibited as conduct. "You
mustn't ask about that" is the commonest answer a child gets. "That's
a naughty question to ask" runs it a close second. Can one inhibit
interest, which is the excitement caused by the unknown? The answer
is that we can, because a large part of education is to do this very
thing. "Can we inhibit any interest without injuring all interests?"
is a question often put. My answer would be that it is socially necessary
that interest in certain directions be inhibited, whether it hurts the
individual or not. But the interest in a forbidden direction can be
shifted to a permitted direction, and this should be done. In my opinion,
sex interest can be so handled and a blunt thwarting of this interest
should be avoided. Some explanation leading the child to larger, less
personal aspects of sex should be given.
The interest of the child is often thwarted through sheer laziness.
"Don't bother me" is the reply of a parent shirking a sacred
duty. Interest is the beginning of knowledge, and where it is discouraged
knowledge is discouraged. Any inquiry can be met on the child's plane
of intelligence and comprehension, and the parent must arrange for the
gratification of this fundamental desire. How? By a question hour each
day, perhaps a children's hour, a home university period where the vital
interest of the child will be satisfied.
To return to the morbid interests: do they arise from secret morbid
desires? The Freudian answer to that would be yes. And so would many
another answer. It is the answer in many cases, especially where the
desire is not so much morbid as forbidden. The virgin, the continent
who are intensely interested in sex are not morbid, even though they
have been forbidden to think of a natural craving and appetite. But
when the interest is for the horrible it is often the case that the
excitement aroused by the subject is pleasurable, because it is a mild
excitement and does not quite reach disgust. Confronted with the real
perversity, the disgust aroused would quite effectually conquer interest.
And here is a fundamental law of interest: it must lead to a profitable,
pleasurable result or else it tends to disappear. If this is too bold
a statement, let me qualify it by stating that a profitable, pleasurable
result must be foreseen or foreseeable. Either in some affective state,
or in some tangible good, interest seeks fulfillment. Disappointment
is the foe of interest, and too prolonged a "vestibule of satisfaction"
(to use Hocking's phrase) destroys or impairs interest.
CHAPTER VIII. THE SENTIMENTS OF LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, HATE, PITY AND
DUTY. COMPENSATION AND ESCAPE
I shall ignore the complexities that arise when we seek to organize
our reactions into various groups by making a simple classification
of feeling, for the purposes of this book. There is a primary result
of any stimulation, whether from within ourselves or without, which
we have called excitement. This excitement may have a pleasurable or
an unpleasurable quality, and we cannot understand just what is back
of pleasure and pain in this sense. Such an explanation, that pleasure
is a sign of good for the organism and pain a sign of bad, is an error
in that often an experience that produces pleasure is a detriment and
an injury. If pleasure were an infallible sign of good, no books on
character, morals or hygiene would need to be written.
This primary excitement, when associated with outer events or things,
becomes differentiated into many forms. Curiosity (or interest) is the
focusing of that excitement on particular objects or ends, in order
that the essential value or meaning of that object or individual become
known. Curiosity and interest develop into the seeking of experience
and the general intellectual pursuits. We have already discussed this
phase of excitement.
An object of interest may then evoke further feeling. It may be one's
baby, or one's father or a kinsman or a female of the same species.
A type of feeling FAVORABLE to the object is aroused, called "tender
feeling," which is associated with deep-lying instincts and has
endless modifications and variations. Perhaps its great example is the
tender feeling of the mother for the baby, a feeling so strong that
it leads to conduct of self- sacrifice; conduct that makes nothing of
privation, suffering, even death, if these will help the object of the
tender feeling, the child. Tender feeling of this type, which we call
love, is a theme one cannot discuss dryly, for it sweeps one into reveries;
it suggests softly glowing eyes, not far from tears, tenderly curved
lips, just barely smiling, and the soft humming of the mother to the
babe in her arms. It is the soft feeling which is the unifying feeling,
and when it reaches a group they become gentle in tone and manners and
feel as one. The dream of the reformer has always been the extension
of this tender feeling from the baby, from the child and the helpless,
to all men, thus abolishing strife, conquering hate, unifying man. This
type of love is also paternal, though it is doubtful whether as such
it ever reaches the intensity it does in the mother. By a sort of association
it spreads to all children, to all little things, to all helpless things,
except where there exists a counter feeling already well established.
Though typical in the mother, child relationship, tender feeling or
love, exists in many other relationships. The human family, with its
close association, its inculcated unity of interests, in its highest
form is based on the tender feeling. The noble ideal of the brotherhood
of man comes from an extension of the feeling found in brothers. The
brotherly feeling is emphasized, though the sisterly feeling is fully
as strong, merely because the male member of genus homo has been the
articulate member, he has written and talked as if he, and not his sister,
were the important human personage. So fraternal feeling is tender feeling,
existing between members of the same family, or the love that we conceive
ought to be present. Is such love instinctive, as is the maternal love?
If it is, that instinct is very much weaker, and hostile feeling, indifference,
rivalry, may easily replace it. We rarely conceive of a mortal world
where so intense a love as that of the mother will be the common feeling;
all we dare hope for is a world in which there will be a fine fraternal
feeling.
Fraternal feeling is born of association together, any task undertaken
en masse, any living together under one roof. Even when men sit down
to eat at the same table, it tends to appear. So college life, the barracks,
secret orders, awaken it, but here, as always, while it links together
the associated, it shuts out as non-fraternal those not associated.
What we call friendly feeling is a less vehement, more intellectualized
form of tender feeling. It demands a certain equality and a certain
similarity in tastes, though some friendships are noted for the dissimilarity
of the friends. Friendship lives on reciprocal benefits, tangible or
intangible, though sentimentalists may take exception to this. Primary
in it is the good opinion of the friends and interest in one another;
we cannot be friends with those who think we are foolish or mean or
bad. We ALLOW a friend to say that we have acted wrongly because we
think he has our interest at heart, because he has shown that he has
this interest at heart, though his saying so sometimes strains the friendship
for a while. Friendship ideally expects no material benefits, but it
lives on the spiritual benefit of sympathy and expressed interest and
the flattery of a taste in common. It is a unification of individuals
that has been glorified as the perfect relationship, since it has no
classifiable instinct behind it and is in a sense democracy at its noblest.
Friendship is easiest formed in youth, because men are least selfish,
least specialized at that time. As time goes on, alas, our own interests
and purposes narrow down in order that we may succeed; there is less
time and energy for friendship.
Sex love is only in part made up of tender feeling. Passion, admiration
of beauty, desire of possession, the love of conquest, take away from
the "other" feeling that is the basis of tenderness or true
love. We desire so much for ourselves in sex love that we have not so
much capacity for tender feeling as we usually think we have. The protests
of eternal devotion and unending self-sacrifice are sincere enough but
they have this proviso in the background: "You must give yourself
to me." If the lovers can also be friends, if they have a real
harmony of tastes, desires and ambitions, if they can recede their ego
feeling, know how to compromise, then this added to sex feeling makes
the most genuinely satisfying of all human relations, or at least the
most reciprocal. But the two human beings who fall in love are rarely
enough alike, and their relationship is rarely one of equality; traditional
duties and rights are not equal; they will seek different things, and
their relationship is too close and intimate to be an easy one to maintain.
Sex love and marriage are different matters, for though they may be
the same, too often they are not. Rarely does sex love maintain itself
without marriage and marriage colors over sex love with parental feelings,
financial interests, home and its emotions, etc. In sex gratification[1]
there is the danger of all sensuous pleasure: that a periodic appetite
gratified often leaves behind it an ennui, a distaste,--sometimes reaching
dislike--of the entire act and associations.
[1] Stanley Hall says that after sex gratification
there is "taedium vitae," weariness of life. In unsanctioned
sex gratification this is extreme and takes on either bitter self-reproach
or else a hate of the partner. But this is due to the inner conflict
rather than the sex act.
Is all tender feeling,
all love, sexual in its essential nature? The Freudians say yes to this,
or what amounts to yes. All mother love arises from the sex sphere,
and it cannot be denied that in the passionate desire to fondle, to
kiss and even to bite there is something very like the excitement of
sex. But there is something very different in the wish for self-sacrifice,
the pity for the helpless state, the love of the littleness. Women,
when they love men, often add maternal feeling to it, but mainly they
love their strength, size and vigor; and there tenderness and passion
differ. Certainly there seems little of the sexual in the love of a
father for his baby,[1] though the Freudians do not hesitate in their
use of the term homosexual. Apparently all children have incestuous
desire for their parents, if we are to trust Freud. Without entering
into detailed reasoning, I disavow any truly sexual element in tender
feeling. It is part of the reception we give to objects having a favorable
relation to ourselves. Indeed, we give it to our houses, our dogs, our
cattle; our pipes are hallowed by friendly association, and so with
our books, our clothes and our homes. We extend it in deep, full measure
to the very rocks and rills of our native land or to some place where
we spent happy or tender days. Tender feeling, love, is inclusive of
much of the sex emotion, and the characteristic mistake of the Freudians
of identifying somewhat similar things has here been made.
[1] It's a very difficult world to live in, if we
are to trust the Freudians. If your boy child loves his mother, that's
heterosexual; if he loves his father, that's homosexual; and the love
of a girl child for her parents simply reverses the above formula. If
your wife says of the baby boy, "How I love him! He looks just
like my father," be careful; that's a daughter-father complex of
a dangerous kind and means the most unhallowed things, and may cause
her to have a nervous breakdown some day!
Love, then, is this
tender feeling made purposive and intelligent. It is a sentiment, in
Shand's phrase, and seeks the good of its object. It may be narrow,
it may be broad, it may be intense or feeble, but in its organized sense
it plans, fights and cherishes. It has organized with it the primary
emotions,--fear if the object is in danger, or anger is evoked according
to the circumstances; joy if the object of love is enhanced or prospers;
sorrow if it is lost or injured under circumstances that make the lover
helpless. Love is not only the tenderest feeling, but it is also the
most heroic and desperate fighter in behalf of the loved one. Here we
are face to face with the contradictions that we always meet when we
personify a quality or make an abstraction. Love may do the most hateful
things; love may stunt, the character of the lover and the beloved.
In other words, love, tender feeling, must be conjoined with intelligence,
good judgment, determination and fairness before it is useful. It would
be a nice question to determine just how much harm misguided love has
done.
What is pity? Though objects of love always elicit pity, when helpless
or injured, objects of pity are not necessarily objects of love. In
fact, we may pity through contempt. Objective pity is a type of tender
feeling in which there is little or no self-feeling. We do not extend
the ego to the piteous object. We desire to help, even though the object
of pity is an enemy or disgusting. One of the commonest struggles of
life is that between self-interest and pity,--and the selfish resent
any situation that arouses their pity, because they dislike to give.
Pity tends to disappear from the life of the soldier and is, indeed,
a trait he does not need; in the lives of the strong and successful,
pity is apt to be a hindering quality. In a world in which competition
is keen, the cooperative gentle qualities hinder success. The weak seek
the pity of others; they need it; and the pity-seeker is a very distinct
type. The strong and proud hate to be pitied, and when wounded they
hide, shun their friends and keep the semblance of strength with a brave
face. Pity directed toward oneself as the object is self-pity,--a quality
found in children and in a certain amiable, weak, egoistic type, whose
eyes are always full of tears as they talk of themselves. Of course,
at times, we are all prone to this vice of character, but there are
some chronically afflicted.
Certain so-called sentimentalists are those who die, tribute their pity
in an erratic fashion. These are the vegetarians who are sad because
it is wrong to kill for food; yet they wear without compunction the
leather of cattle who have neither committed suicide nor died of old
age. And the anti-vivisectionists view without any stir of pity the
children of the slums and the sick of all kinds. Pity raises man to
the divine but, like all the gentle qualities, it needs guidance by
reason and common sense before it is of any value.
Just as there are objects and individuals recognized or believed to
be as somehow favorable and who evoke tender feeling, so there are objects
and individuals regarded as unfavorable, perhaps dangerous, who arouse
aversion and hatred. The feeling thus produced is the other great sentiment
of life, which on the whole organizes character and conduct on a great
plane. Hatred, a decidedly primitive reaction, still is powerful in
the world and is back of dissension of all kinds, from lawsuits to war.
When one hates he is attached to the hated object in a fashion just
the reverse of the attachment of love; joy, anger, fear and sorrow arise
under exactly the opposite circumstances, and the aim and end of hate
is to block, thwart and destroy the hated one. The earlier history of
man lays emphasis on the activities of hate,--war, feats of arms, individual
feuds. Hate, unlike love, needs no moral code or teaching to bring it
into activity; it springs into being and constantly needs repression.
Unlikeness alone often brings it to life; to be too different from others
is recognized as a legitimate reason for hatred. The most important
cause is conflict of interest and wounding of self-feeling and pride.
Revengeful feeling, fostered by tradition and "patriotism,"
caused many wars and in its lesser spheres of operation is back of murders,
assaults, insults and the lesser categories of injuries of all kinds.
The prime emotion of hatred is anger; in its less intense aspect of
aversion it is disgust. The aim and end of anger is destruction of the
offending object; the aim and end of aversion is removal, ejection.
Hate may be and often is a noble sentiment, though the trend of modern
thought, as it minimizes personal responsibility, is to eliminate hate
against persons and intellectualize hate so that it is reserved for
the battle against ideas. Whether you can really summon all your effort
against any one, against his plans, opinions and actions, unless you
have built up the steady sentiment of hatred for him, is a nice psychological
question. Hate is most intense in little people, in persons absolutely
convinced that their interests, opinions and plans are sacred, sure
of their superiority and righteousness. Once let insight into yourself,
your weakness and your real motives creep into your mind and your hate
against opponents and obstructors must lessen. Those who realize most
the fallibility of men and women, to whom Pilate's question "What
is truth?" has added to it a more sceptical question, "What
is right," find it hard to hate. Therefore, such persons, the broad-minded
and the most deeply wise, are not the best fighters for a cause, since
their efforts are lessened by sympathy for the opponent. Here is the
marvel of Abraham Lincoln; rich with insight, he could hate slavery
and secession and yet not hate the southern people. In that division
of himself lies his greatness and his suffering.
The disappearance of personal hate from the world can only come when
men realize the essential unity of mankind. For part of the psychological
origin of hate lies in unlikeness. Great unlikeness in color and facial
line seems to act as a challenge to the feeling of superiority. Wherever
a "different" group challenges another's superiority, or enters
into active competition for the goods of life, there hate enters in
its most virulent form. The disappearance of the "unlike"
feeling is very slow and is hindered by the existence of small "particular"
groups. Little nationalities,[1] small sects, even exclusive clubs and
circles are means of generating difference and thus hate.
[1] The more nationalities, each with its claim to a great destiny,
the more wars! There is the essential danger and folly of tribal patriotism.
We shall not enter into the origin of hate through the danger to purpose,
through rivalry among those not separated by unlikeness. Hate seems
to be a chronic anger, or at least that emotion kept at a more or less
constant level by perception of danger and the threat at personal dignity
and worth. Obstructed love or passion and the feeling of "wrong,"
i. e., injury done that was not merited, that the personal conscience
does not justify, furnish the most virulent types of hatred. "Love
thine enemies" is still an impossible injunction for most men.
We cannot hope to trace the feeling of revenge in its effects on human
conduct. Though at present religion and law both prohibit revengeful
acts, the desire "to get even" flames high in almost every
human breast under all kinds of injury or insult. This form of hate
may express itself crudely in the vendetta of the Sicilian, the feud
of the Tennessee mountaineer, or the assault and battery of an aggrieved
husband; it is behind the present-day conflict in Ireland, and it threatened
Europe for forty years after the Franco-Prussian War, --and no man knows
how profoundly it will influence future world affairs because of the
Great War. Often it disguises itself as justice, the principle of the
thing, in those who will not admit revenge as a motive; and the eclipsed
and beaten take revenge in slander, innuendo and double-edged praise.
To some revenge is a devil to be fought out of their hearts; to others
it is a god that guides every act. We may define nobility of character
as the withdrawal from revenge as a motive and the substitution for
it of justice.
Some hatred expresses itself openly and fearlessly and as such gains
some respect, even from its own object. Other hatred plots and schemes,
the intelligence lends itself to the plans completely and the whole
personality suffers in consequence. Some hatred, weak and without self-confidence,
or seeking the effect of surprise, is hypocritical, dissimulates, affects
friendly feeling, rubs its hands over insults and awaits the opportune
moment. This type is associated in all minds with a feeling of disgust,
for at bottom we rather admire the "good" hater.
We have spoken of these three specialized and directed outgrowths of
excitement, interest, love and hatred as if they were primarily directed
to the outside world, though in a previous chapter we discussed the
introspective interest. What shall we call the love and hatred a man
has for himself? Is the self-regarding sentiment any different than
the sentiment of love for others? Is that hate and disgust we feel for
ourselves, or for some action or thought, different from the hate and
disgust we have for others?
Judged by Shand's dicta that anger and fear are aroused if the object
of love is threatened, joy is aroused as it prospers, and sorrow if
it is deeply injured or lost, self-love remarkably resembles other-love.
The pride we take in our own achievements is unalloyed by jealousy,
and there is always a trace of jealousy in the pride we take in the
achievements of others, but there is no difference in the pride itself.
There is no essential difference in the "good" we seek for
ourselves and in the good we seek for others, for what we seek will
depend on our idea of "good." Thus the ambitious mother seeks
for her daughter a rich husband and the idealist seeks for his son a
career of devotion to the ideal. And the sensualist devoted to the good
of his belly and his pocket loves his child and shows it by feeding
and enriching him.
There seems to be lacking, however, the glow of tender feeling in self-love.
The projection of the self-interest to others has a passion, a melting
in it that self-love never seems to possess, though it may be constant
and ever-operating. Self-regard, self-admiration or conceit may be very
high and deeply felt, but though more common than real admiration for
others, it seldom reaches the awe and reverence that the projected emotion
reaches.
In mental disease, of the type known as Maniac Depressive insanity,
there is a curious oscillation of self-love and self-admiration. This
disease is cyclic, in that two opposing groups of symptoms tend to appear
and displace each other. In the manic, or excited state, there is greatly
heightened activity with correspondingly heightened feeling of power.
Self-love and admiration reach absurd levels: one is the most beautiful,
the richest and wisest of persons, infallible, irresistible, aye, perhaps
God or Christ. Sometimes the feeling of grandeur, the euphoria, is less
fantastic and the patient imagines himself a great inventor, a statesman
of power and wisdom, a writer of renown, etc. Suddenly, or perhaps gradually,
the change comes; self-feeling drops into an abyss. "I am the most
miserable of persons, the vilest sinner, hated and rightly by God and
man, cause of suffering and misery. I am no good, no use, a horrible
odor issues from me, I am loathsome to look at, etc., etc." Desperate
suicidal attempts are made, and all the desires that tend to preserve
the individual disappear, including appetite for food and drink, the
power to sleep. It is the most startling of transitions; one can hardly
realize that the dejected, silent person, sitting in a corner, hiding
his face and hardly breathing, is the same individual who lately tore
around the wards, happy, dancing, singing and boasting of his greatness
of power. Indeed, is he the same individual? No wonder the ancients
regarded such insanity as a possession by an evil spirit. We of a later
day who deal with this disease on the whole are inclined to the belief
that some internal factor of a physical kind is responsible, some neuronic
shift, or some strange, visceral endocrinal disorder.
While self-hate in this pathological aspect is relatively uncommon,
in every person there are self-critical, self-condemning activities
which sometimes for short periods of time reach self-hatred and disgust.
McDougall makes a good deal of the self-abasing instinct which makes
us lower ourselves gladly and willingly. This seems to me to be an aspect
of the emotion of admiration and wonder, for we do not wish ordinarily
to kneel at the feet of the insignificant, debased; or it is an aspect
of fear and the effort to obtain conciliation and pity. But the establishment
of ideals for ourselves to which we are not faithful brings with it
a disgust and loathing for self that is extremely painful and leads
to a desire for penance of any kind In order that we may punish ourselves
and feel that we have made amends. The capacity for self-hate and self-disgust
depends largely upon the development of these ideals and principles
of conscience, of expectation of the self. Frequently there is an overrigidity,
a ceaseless self-examination that now and then produces miracles of
character and achievement but more often brings the breakdown of health.
This is the seeker of perfection in himself, who will not compromise
with his instincts and his human flesh. There seekers of perfection
are among the noblest of the race, admired in the abstract but condemned
by their friends as "too good," "impractical," as
possessors of the "New England conscience." One of the effects
of a Puritanical bringing-up is a belief that pleasure is unworthy,
especially in the sex field and even in marriage. Now and then one meets
a patient caught between perfectly proper desire and an obsession that
such pleasure is debasing; and a feeling of self-disgust and self-hatred
results that is the more tragic since it is useless.
There are those in whom self-love and self-esteem is at a lower pressure
than with the average man, just as there are those in whom it is at
a much higher pressure. Such people, when fatigued or when subject to
the hostile or even non-friendly opinion of others, become so-called
self-conscious, i. e., are afflicted with fear and a feeling of inferiority.
This may deepen into self-contempt and self-hatred. Part of what is
called confidence in oneself is self-esteem, and under fatigue, illness,
after punishment of a physical or mental nature, it is apt to disappear.
Very distressing is this in those who have been accustomed to courage
and self-confidence, perhaps whose occupation makes these qualities
necessary. Soldiers, after gassing or cerebral concussion, men completely
without introspection, fearless and gay with assurance, become apprehensive,
self-analytical and without the least faith in themselves, so that they
approach their work in fear. So with men who work in high places or
where there is risk, such as steeplejacks, bridge builders, iron workers,
engineers; let an accident happen to them, or let there occur an exhausting
disease with its aftermath of neurasthenia, and the self-esteem and
self-confidence disappear so that in many cases they have to give up
their job.
Because self-disgust and hatred are so painful, compensatory "mechanisms"
have been set up. There is in many people a tendency to project outward
the blame for those acts or thoughts which they dislike. In the pathological
field we get those delusions of influence that are so common. Thus a
patient will attribute his obscene thoughts and words to a hypnotic
effect of some person or group of persons and saves his own face by
the delusion. In lesser pathological measure, men have fiercely preached
against the snares and wiles of women, refusing to recognize that the
turmoil of unwelcome desire into which they were thrown was internal
in the greater part of its origin and that the woman often knew little
or not at all of the effect she helped produce. One of the outstanding
features in the history of the race has been this transfer of blame
from the desire of men to the agent which aroused them. Of course, women
have played on the desires of men, but even where this was true the
blame for VULNERABILITY has seldom been fully accepted. Whenever any
one has been "weak" or "foolish" or "sinful,"
his mind at once seeks avenues of escape from the blame, from the painful
feeling of inferiority and self-reproach. The avenue of escape selected
may be to blame others as tempting or not warning and not teaching,
may become entirely delusional, or it may take the religious form of
confession, expiation and repentance. There are some so hardy in their
self-esteem that they never suffer, never seek any escape from self-reproach,
largely because they never feel it; and others, though they seek escape,
are continually dragged by conscience to self-imposed torture. Most
of us seek explanations for our unwelcome conduct on a plane most favorable
to our self-esteem, and there arises an elaborate system of self-disguise,
expiation, repentance and confession that is in a large part the real
inner life of most of us. To explain failure especially are the avenues
of escape utilized. Wounded in his self-esteem, rare is the one who
frankly acknowledges inferiority. "Pull," "favoritism,"
"luck," explain the success of others as do the reverse circumstances
explain our failures to ourselves. Sickness explains it, and so the
defeated search in themselves for the explanation which will in part
compensate them. Escape from inferiority follows many avenues, --by
actual development of superiority, by denying real superiority to others,
or by explaining the inferiority on some acceptable basis.
Here (as elsewhere in character) there is evident an organic and a social
basis for feeling. We have not emphasized sufficiently a peculiarity
of all human feeling, all emotions, all sentiments. They have their
value to the individual in organizing his conduct, his standard of value.
They are of enormous importance socially. A great law of feeling of
whatever kind, of whatever elaboration, is this; it tends to spread
from individual to individual and excites whole groups to the same feeling;
tender feeling is contagious, and so is hate. We are somehow so made
that we reverberate at a friendly smile in one way and to the snarl
and stern look of hate in another way. Ordinarily love awakens love
and hate awakens hate, though it may bring fear or contempt. It is true
that we may feel so superior or cherish some secret hate that will make
another's love odious to us, and also we may admire and worship one
who hates us. These are exceptional cases and are examples of exceptional
sentimental stability. It is of course understood that by love is not
meant sex passion. Here the curious effect of coldness is sometimes
to fan the flame of passion. Desire obstructed often gains in violence,
and the desire to conquer and to possess the proud, that we all feel,
adds to the fire of lust.
Self-esteem, self-confidence, hateful to others if in excess or if obtrusive,
is an essential of the leader. His feeling is extraordinarily contagious,
and the morale of the group is in his keeping. He must not show fear,
or self-distrust or self-lowering in any way. He must be deliberate,
but forceful, vigorous, masterful. If he has doubts, he must keep them
to himself or exhibit them only to one who loves him, who is not a mere
follower. It is a law of life that the herd follows the unwounded, confident,
egoistic leader and tears to pieces or deserts the one who is wearying.
The basic sentiments of interest, love and hate, projected outward or
inward, organize personality. Men's characters and their destinies rest
in the things they find interesting, the persons they love and hate,
their self-confidence and self-esteem, their self-contempt and hatred.
And it is true that often we hate and love the same person or circumstance;
we are divided, secretly, in our tenderest feelings, in our fiercest
hate, more often, alas, in the former. For occasionally admiration and
respect will mitigate hate and render impotent our aim, but more commonly
we are jealous of or envy son, brother, sister, husband, wife, father,
mother and friend. We love our work but hate its tyranny, and even the
ideal that we cherish, when we examine it too closely, seems overconventionalized,
not enough our own, and it stifles and martyrs too many unpleasant desires.
We rebel against our own affections, against the love that chains us
perhaps to weakness and forces us, weary, to the wheel.
How deeply the feeling of "right" enters into the sentiments
and their labors needs only a little reflection to understand. Here
we come to the effect of the sentiment of duty, for as such it may be
discussed. The establishment of conscience as our inner guide to conduct,
and even to thought and emotions, has been studied briefly. On a basis
of innate capacity, conscience arises from the teaching and traditions
of the group (or groups). The individual who has a susceptibility or
a readiness to believe and a desire to be in conformity accepts or evolves
for himself principles of conduct, based on obligation, expectation
of reward and fear of punishment, these entering in various proportions,
according to the type of person. In children, or the very young child,
expectation of reward and fear of punishment are more important than
obligation, and this remains true of many people throughout life. Gradually
right, what we call duty, becomes established as a guiding principle;
but it must struggle with impulse and the desire for immediate pleasure
throughout life. In fact, one of the dangers of the development of the
feeling of duty lies in the view often held by those guided by principle
and duty that pleasure is in itself somehow wrong and needs justification.
Whereas, in my opinion, pleasure is right and needs no justification
and is wrong only when it offends the fundamental moralities and purposes
of Society.
The feeling of "right" depends to a certain extent on the
kind of teaching in early childhood, but more on the nature of the individual.
It is based on his social feeling, his desire to be in harmony with
a group or a God that essentially stands above any group. For the idea
of God introduces an element having more authority than the group whom
He leads. Here also is a factor of importance: choice is difficult for
the great majority. Placed in a situation where more than one response
is possible, an unhappy state of bewilderment results unless there are
formulae for action. The leader is the chooser for the group; religion
is an established system of choices even in its "Thou shalt not"
injunctions, and to be at one with God implies that one is following
an infallible leader, and doubt and uncertainty disappear. Trotter[1]
points out clearly the role the feeling of certitude plays in developing
codes. As life becomes more complex, as more choices appear, the need
of an established method of choosing becomes greater. The careful, cautious,
conscientious types develop a system of principles for choice of action;
they discard the uncertainty of pleasure as a guide for the certainty
of a code laid down and fixed. Duty is the north star of conduct!
[1] "The Herd and its Instincts in Peace and War."
In passing, an interesting development of our times is worth noticing.
The tendency is to discard established codes, to weaken dogma and to
throw more responsibility on the individual conscience. That is the
meaning of the Protestant reformation, and it is the meaning of the
growth of Unitarianism within the Protestant church; it is also the
meaning of the reform movement in Judaism. The Catholic church has felt
it in the breaking away of state after state from its authority, which
virtually means that the states have thrown their citizens back on their
own consciences and the state laws. In fact, reliance on law is in part
an effort to escape the necessity of choosing. The pressure of external
authority has its burden, but in giving up its certainty man also gives
up tranquillity. Much of modern neurasthenia is characterized by a feeling
of uncertainty, unreality, doubt: what is right, what is real? True,
as religion in the dogmatic sense relinquishes its power, ethics grow
in value and men seek some other formula which will compensate for the
dogma. It is no accident that as the old religions lose their complete
control new ones appear, with all-embracing formula, like Christian
Science, New Thought, etc. Though these start with elastic general principles,
sooner or later the directions for conduct become minute and then fixed.
The tragedy of a great founder of religion like Buddha or Christ is
that though he gives out a great pure principle, his followers must
have, demand and evolve a dogmatic religion with fixed ceremonials.
Man, on the whole, does not want to choose; he wants to have the feeling
that he ought to do this or that according to a code laid down by authority.
This will make a real democracy always impossible.
However the sentiment of duty arises, it becomes the central feeling
in all inner conflicts, and it wrestles with inclination and the pleasant
choice. Duty is the great inhibitor, but also it says "Thou shalt!"
Ideally, duty involves self-sacrifice, and practically man dislikes
self-sacrifice save where love is very strong. Duty chains a man to
his task where he is inclined for a holiday. Duty may demand a man's
life, and that sacrifice seems easier for men to make than the giving
up of power and pelf. (In the late war it was no great trouble to pass
laws conscripting life; it was impossible to pass laws conscripting
wealth. It was easier for a man to allow his son to go to war than to
give up his wealth en masse.)
The power of the feeling of duty and right over men is very variable.
There are a few to whom the feeling of "ought" is all powerful;
they cannot struggle against it, even though they wish to. All of their
goings, comings and doings are governed thereby, and even though they
find the rest of the world dropping from them, they resist the herd.
For the mass of men duty governs a few relationships--to family and
country--and even here self-interest is camouflaged by the term "duty"
in the phrase "a man owes a duty to himself." This is the
end of real duty. The average man or woman makes a duty of nonessentials,
of ceremonials, but is greatly moved by the cry of duty if it comes
from authority or from those he respects. He fiercely resents it if
told he is not doing his duty, but is quick to tell others they are
not doing theirs.
There is also a group in whom the sense of duty is almost completely
lacking, or rather fails to govern action. Ordinarily these are spoken
of as lacking moral fiber, but in reality the organizing energy of character
and the inhibition of the impulse to seek pleasure and present desire
is feeble. Sometimes there is lack of affection toward others, little
of the real glow of tender feeling, either towards children[1] or parents
or any one. Though these are often emotional, they are not, in the good
meaning of the term, sentimental.
[1] It is again to be emphasized that the most vital
instincts may be lacking. Even the maternal feeling may be absent, not
only in the human mother but in the animal mother. So we need not be
surprised if there are those with no sense of right or duty.
Is the sentiment
of duty waning? The alarmists say it is and point to the increase of
divorce, falling off in church attendance, and the unrest among the
laboring classes as evidence that there is a decadence. Pleasure is
sought, excitement is the goal, and sober, solid duty is "forgotten."
They point out a resemblance to the decadent days of Rome, in the rise
of luxury and luxurious tastes, and indicate that duty and the love
of luxury cannot coexist. Woman has forgotten her duty to bear children
and to maintain the home and man has forgotten his duty to God.
Superficially these critics are right. There is a demand for a more
satisfying life, involving less self sacrifice on the part of those
who have in the past made the bulk of the sacrifices. Woman, demanding
equality, refuses to be regarded as merely a child bearer and is become
a seeker of luxury. The working man, looking at the world he has built,
now able to read, write and vote, asks why the duty is all on his side.
In other words, a demand for justice, which is merely reciprocal, universal
duty, has weakened something of the sense of duty. In fact, that is
the first effect of the feeling of injustice, of unjust inequality.
Dealing with the emancipated, the old conception of duty as loyalty
under all conditions has not worked, and we need new ideals of duty
on the part of governments and governing groups before we can get the
proper ideals of duty in the governed.
Some of those ideals are commencing to be heard. International duty
for governments is talked of and some are bold to say that national
feeling prevents a real feeling of duty to the world, to man. These
claim that duty must have its origin in the extension of tender feeling,
in fraternity, to all men. In a lesser way business is commencing to
substitute for its former motto, "Handelschaft ist keine Bruderschaft"
(business is no brotherhood), the ideal of service, as the duty of business.
Everywhere we are commencing to hear of "social duty," of
obligation to the lesser and unfortunate, of the responsibility of the
leaders to the led, of the well to the sick, of the law-abiding to the
criminal. Strange notion, this last, but one at bottom sound and practical.
In the end, the true sense of duty is in a sense of individual responsibility.
Our age feels this as no other age has felt it. Other ages have placed
responsibility on the Church, on God and on the State. Difficult and
onerous as is the burden, we are commencing to place duty on the individual,
and in that respect we are not in the least a decadent generation.
CHAPTER IX. ENERGY RELEASE AND THE EMOTIONS
One of the problems in all work is to place things in their right order,
in the order of origin and importance. This difficulty is almost insoluble
when one studies the character of man. As we see him in operation, the
synthesis is so complete that we can hardly discern the component parts.
Inheritance, social pressure, excitement, interest, love, hate, self-interest,
duty and obligation, --these are not unitary in the least and there
is constantly a false dissection to be made, an artefact, in order that
clearness in presentation may be obtained.
We see men as discharging energy in work and play, in the activities
that help or hurt themselves and the race. They obtain that energy from
the world without, from the sunshine, the air, the plants and the animals;
it is built up in their bodies, it is discharged either because some
inner tension builds up a desire or because some outer stimulus, environmental
or social, directs it. Though we have no way of measuring one man's
energy against another, we say, perhaps erroneously, "He is very
energetic," or "He is not"; "He is tireless,"
or "He breaks down easily." As students of character, we must
take this question of the energies of men into account as integral in
our study.
Granting that the human being takes in energy as food and drink and
builds it up into dischargeable tissues, we are not further concerned
with the details of its physiology. How does the feeling of energy arise,
what increases the energy discharge and what blocks, inhibits or lowers
it? For from day to day, from hour to hour, we are conscious either
of a desire to be active, a feeling of capacity or the reverse. We depend
on that feeling of capacity to guide us, and though it is organic, it
has its mysterious disappearances and marvelous reenforcements.
It arises, so we assume, from the visceral-neuronic activities, subconsciously,
in the sense we have used that word. It therefore fluctuates with health,
with fatigue, with the years. We marvel at the energy of childhood and
youth, and the deepest sadness we have is the depletion of energy-feeling
in old age. We love energy in ourselves and we yield admiration, willing
or unwilling, to its display in others. The Hero, the leader, is always
energetic. In our times, in America, we demand "pep," action
and energy-display as an essential in our play and in our work, and
we worship quite too frankly where all men have always worshiped.
What besides the organic activity, besides health and well-being, excites
the feeling of energy and what depresses it?
1. This feeling is excited by the society of others, by the herd-feeling,
and depressed by long-continued solitude or loneliness. The stimuli
that come from other people's faces, voices, contacts--their emotions,
feelings and manifestations of energy--are those we are best adapted
to react to, those most valuable in stirring us up. Scenery, the grandeur
of the outer world, finally depress the most of us, and we can bear
these things best in company. Who has not, on a long railroad journey,
watched with weariness and flickering interest valley and hill and meadow
swing by and then sat up with energy and definite attention as a human
being passed along on some rural road? Lacking these stimuli there is
monotony and monotony always has with it as one of its painful features
a subjective sense of lowered energy, of fatigue. This is the problem
of the housewife and the solitary worker everywhere,--there is failure
of the sense of energy due to a failure to receive new stimuli in their
most potent form, our fellows.
2. The disappearance or injury of desire and purpose. Let there be a
sudden blocking of a purpose or an aim, so that it seems impossible
of fulfillment, and energy-feeling drops; movement, thought, even feeling
seem painful. The will flags, and the whole world becomes unreal. This
is part of the anhedonia we spoke of.
In reality, we have the disappearance of hope as basic in this adynamia.
Hope and courage are in part organic, in part are due to the belief
that a desired goal can be reached. Whether that goal is health, when
one is sick, or riches, or fame, or love and possession, if it is a
well-centralized goal toward which our main energies are bent, and then
seems suddenly impossible to reach, there is a corresponding paralysis
of energy.
Here is where a great difference is seen between individuals and between
one time of life and another. There are some to whom hope is a shining
beacon light never absent; whatever happens, hope remains, like the
beautiful fable of Pandora's box. There are others to whom any obstruction,
any discouraging feature, blots out hope, and who constantly need the
energy of others; their persuasions and exhortations, for a renewal
of energy. Here, as elsewhere in life, some are givers and others takers
of energy. In the presence of the hopeless it is hard to maintain one's
own feeling of energy and that is why the average man shuns them. He
guards as priceless his own enthusiasm.
Curiously enough, when energy tends to disappear in the face of disaster
to one's plans, a tonic is often enough the reflection, "it might
have been worse" or "there are others worse off."[1]
Though one rebels against the encouraging effect of the last statement,
it does console, it does renew hope. For hope and energy and desire
are competitive, as is every other measure of value. So long as one
is not the worst off, then there is something left, there is a hopeful
element in the situation. Similarly a certain rough treatment helps,
as when Job is told practically, "After all, who is Man that he
should ask for the fulfillment of his hopes?" A sense of littleness
with the rest of the race acts to bring resignation, and after that
has been established, hope can reappear. For resignation is rarely a
prolonged state of mind; it is a doorway through which we reenter into
the vista-chambers of Hope.
[1] A humorous use of this fact is in the popular
"Cheer up, the worst is yet to come!" This acts as a rough
tonic.
And one clearly sees the benefit of a belief, a faith in God. "Gott
in sein Mizpah ist gerecht," cries the orthodox Jew when his hope
is shattered,--"God's decree is just." This is Hope Eternal;
"my purposes are blocked, but were they God's purposes? No. He
would not then block them. I must seek God's purposes." Faith is
really a transcendent Hope, renewing the feeling of energy.
3. The belief that one has the good opinion of others is a powerful
stimulus to energy and feeling. We have already considered the effect
of praise and blame. Some are so constituted that they need the approval
of others at all times; they are at the mercy of any one who gives them
a cold look or a harsh word. Others cling to the need of their own self-approval;
they are aristocrats, firm and secure in their self-estimate. Let their
self-esteem crumble, and these proud and haughty ones are humble, weak,
inefficient. We fiercely resent criticism because in it is a threat
to our source of energy, our very feeling of being alive.
One has shrewdly to examine his fellow men from this angle: "Does
he work up his own steam; are his boilers of energy heated by his own
enthusiasm and his own self-approval? Or does he borrow; can he work
only if others add their fire to his; does his light go out if his neighbors
turn away or are too busy to help him?" One type of man may be
as admirable as another in his gifts, but the types need different treatment.
Self-valuation is to a large extent our opinion of the valuation of
others of ourselves.[1] We believe people like us, think we are fine
and able, or beautiful, and we react with energy to difficulties. We
may be wrong; they may call us a conceited ass and laugh at us behind
our backs, but so long as we do not find it out, it doesn't matter.
There is, however, no blow quite so severe as the sudden realization
that we have mistaken the opinion of others, we have been "fooled."
To be fooled is to be lowered in one's own self-esteem, and we like
sincerity and hate insincerity largely because our self-esteem stands
on some solid basis in the one case and on none whatever in the other.
Most of us would rather have people say bad things of us to our face
than run the risk of the ridicule and the foolish feeling that comes
with insincerity. There are some who are always suspicions that people
are insincere in praise or friendly words; they hate being fooled, they
know of no criterion of sincerity and such people are in an adynamic
state most of the time. The difference between the trusting and the
suspicious is that one responds with energy and belief to the manifestations
of friendliness in everybody, and the other has no such inner response
to guide his energy and his actions. Trust in others is a releaser of
energy; distrust paralyzes it.
[1] To paraphrase Doctor Holmes the biggest factor
in John's self-valuation is HIS idea of Jane's idea of John.
4. Doubt and inability to choose may be contrasted with certitude and
clear choice in their effect on energy release. Of course, one of the
signs of lowered energy is doubt, as a sign of high energy is certainty.
Nevertheless, a situation of critical importance, in which choice is
difficult or digagreeable, inhibits energy feeling[1] and discharge
perhaps as much as any other mental factor. Especially is this true
when the inhibition concerns a moral situation--"Ought I to do
this or that"--and where the fear of being wrong or doing wrong
operates so that the individual does nothing and develops an obsession
of doubt. This "to be or not to be" attitude is typical of
many intelligent people, yes, even intellectual people. They we so many
angles to a situation, they project so far into the future in their
thoughts, that a weary discouragement comes. To such as these, the counsel
of "action right or wrong but action anyway!" is good, but
the difficulty is to make them overcome their doubts. Their cerebral
oscillation makes them weary but they cannot seem to stop it; their
pendulum of choice never stops at action.
[1] See William James' "Varieties of Religious
Experiences," for beautiful examples. The Russian writers are often
narrators of this struggle.
If one wishes to destroy the energy of any one, the best way to do it
is to sow the seeds of doubt. "Your ideal is a fine one, my friend,
but--isn't it a little sophomoric?" "A nice piece of work,
but--who wants it?" On the other hand, to one obsessed by doubt
it may happen that a whole-hearted endorsement, a resolution of the
doubt, brings with it first relief and then a swing of energy into the
channels of action.
5. Competition is a great factor in energy release. Every one has seen
a horse ambling along, apparently without sufficient energy to go more
than four miles an hour. Suddenly he cocks up his ears as the sounds
of the hoof beats of a rapidly traveling horse are heard. He shakes
his head and to the amazement or amusement of his driver sets off in
rivalry at a two-minute clip. Intensely cooperative and gregarious as
man is, he is as intensely competitive, spurred on by his observations
of the other fellow. Introduce a definite system of rivalry into a school
or an office, and you release energies never manifested before. There
are some to whom this is the main releaser of energy; struggle, competition
and victory over another is their stimulus. They can play no game unless
there is competition, and the solitary pleasures and satisfactions,
like reading, exploring, a row on the river or a walk in the woods,
cannot arouse them. Others dislike rivalry or competition; they are
too sympathetic to wish victory over another and also they dread to
lose. They prefer team play and cooperation. The world will always seem
different to these two types. This may be said now that for most of
us, who are somewhat of a blend in this matter, rivalry is pleasant
and stimulating when there is a show of success, but we prefer cooperation
when we foresee failure.
This brings up the interesting phase of precedent in energy release.
Early success, unless it brings too high a self-valuation, which is
its great danger, is remarkably valuable in releasing energy, and failure
establishes a precedent that may bring doubt, fear and the attendant
inhibition of energy. Of course, failure may bring with it caution and
a recasting of plans and thus constitute the most valuable of experiences.
But if it is too great, or if there is lacking a certain fortitude,
it may act as a paralyzer of energy thenceforth. In the prize ring this
is often noted; the spirit of a man goes with a defeat and he never
again has self-confidence; thereafter his energy is constantly inhibited.
Emotions have long been studied in their effects on energy. In fact,
every animal that bristles and snarls as it faces a foe is, unconsciously,
attempting to paralyze with fear its opponent, to render it helpless
through the inhibition of action. So with the lurking tiger; it waits
in silence for the prey and seeks the fascination of surprise as a factor
in victory. On the other hand, the emotion of fear may be a releaser
of energy for the prospective victim; it may release the energies of
flight and add to the power of the animal. In this, there is a unique
and neglected phase of emotion, i.e., if you shake your fist at your
enemy and he runs away or knocks you down, then your manifestation of
anger has been unsuccessful for you but his reaction has been successful
for him. If he becomes so paralyzed with fear that you can work your
will with him, then your anger is successful while his fear is not.
Most of the psychologists have neglected this phase of emotion. Thus
it is hard to understand the use fainting from terror has to the victim.
The answer is it is useful to him who has caused the victim to faint.
6. For the individual, the emotion of fear has as its function a preparation
for a danger that is foreseen to be too powerful to be met with effective
resistance. Fear says, "It's no use to fight, fly or hide."
Therefore, normally there is a heightening of energy feeling and action
in these two directions. There are plenty of recorded incidents where
fear has enabled men to run distances utterly impossible to them otherwise.
In the fear states of mental disease, the resistance a frail woman will
offer to her attendants is such that the utmost strength of several
people is required to restrain her. Under these circumstances fear acts
as an energizer, causing physical reactions not ordinarily within the
will of the person. "Fear lends wings," is the time-honored
way of expressing this. The trapped animal makes "frantic"
efforts to escape.
Fear is extraordinarily contagious, perhaps because as herd members
the cry of fear sets us all racing for safety. This is the grimmest
danger from fires in public places or the presence of a coward in a
military unit. Panic occurs with its blind unreasoning flight, and the
result is disastrous. I emphasize again that emotions are poorly adapted
to the welfare of the individual. Business panics are in large measure
the result of the contagiousness of fear; timidity spreads like wildfire,
distrust and suspicion are aroused and stagnation results without a
"real" basis. In President Wilson's phrase, the panic is "purely
psychological."
Intellectualized, fear becomes one of the driving forces of life, as
Hobbes[1] pointed out. Fear of punishment undoubtedly deters from crime,
though it is not in itself sufficient, and the kind of punishment becomes
important. Fear of hunger has brought prudence, caution, agriculture
into the world. Life insurance has its root in fear for others, who
are really part of one's self; the fear of the rainy day is back of
most of the thrift, though the acquisitive feeling and duty may also
operate powerfully. Fear of venereal disease impels many a man to continence
who otherwise would follow his desire. And fear of the bad opinion of
others is the most powerful deterrent force in the world. "What
will people say" is, at bottom, fear that they will say bad things,
and though it keeps men from the "bad" conduct, it inhibits
the finer nobler actions as well. There is a great deal of unconventional
untrammeled belief in the world that never finds expression because
of fear.
How deeply the fear of death modifies the life of people it is impossible
to state. To every one there comes the awful reflection that he, that
warmly pulsating being, in love with the world and with living, "center
of the universe," HE himself must die, must be cold and still and
have no will, no power, no feeling; be buried in the ground. Most of
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