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melancholy of the
world is due to this realization, and most of the feeling of pessimism
and futility thus has its origin. Mortal man--a worm of the earth--a
brief flower doomed to perish--and all of it finds final expression
in Gray's marvelous words:
"The boast of heraldry, the pomp of pow'r, And all that beauty,
all that wealth e'er gave, Await alike the inevitable hour. The paths
of glory lead but to the grave."
[1] Hobbes made fear the most important motive in
the conduct of man.
"Why strive, thou poor creature, for wealth and power; sink thyself
in the, Godhead!" "Turn, turn from vain pursuits; fame, the
bubble, is bound to break as thou art." This is one type of reaction
against this fear,--for men react to the fear of death variously. If
man is mortal, God is not, and there is a life everlasting. The life
everlasting--whether a reality or not--is conjured up and believed in
by an effort to compensate for the fear of death.
I have a son who, when he was three, manifested great emotion if death
were to enter in a story. "Will anything happen?" he would
ask, meaning, "Will death enter?" And if so, he would beg
not to have that story told. But when he was four, he heard some one
say that there were people who took old automobiles apart, fixed up
the parts and these were then placed in other automobiles.
"That's what God does to us," he cried triumphantly. "When
we die, He takes us apart and puts us into babies, and we live again."
Thereafter he would discuss death as fearlessly as he spoke of dinner,
and all his fears vanished. Here was a typical rationalization of fear,
one that has helped to shape religion, philosophies, ways of living.
And the widespread belief in immortality is a compensation and a rationalization
of the fear of death.
If some men rationalize in this fashion, others take directly opposite
means. "Eat, drink and be merry, for to-morrow we die." The
popularity of Omar Khayyam rests upon the aptness of his statement of
this side of the case of Man vs. Death, and many a man who never heard
of him has recklessly plunged into dissipation on the theory, "a
short life and a merry one." This is more truly a pessimism than
is the ascetic philosophy.
"Well, then, I must die," says another. "Oh, that I might
achieve before death comes!" So men, appalled by the brief tenure
of life and the haphazard way death strikes, work hard, spurred on by
the wish to leave a great work behind them. This work becomes a Self,
left behind, and here the fear of death is compensated for by a little
longer life in the form of achievement.
Many a father and mother, looking at their children, feel this as part
of their compensation for parenthood. "I shall die and leave some
one behind me," means, "I shall die and yet I shall, in another
form, live." Part of the incentive to parenthood, in a time which
knows how to prevent parenthood and which shirks it as disagreeable,
is the fear of death, of personal annihilation. For there is in death
a blow to one's pride, an indignity in this annihilation,--Nothingness.
There is a still larger reaction to the fear of death. I have stated
that the feeling of likeness is part of the feeling of brotherhood and
in death is one of the three great likenesses of man. We are born of
the labor of our mothers, our days are full of strife and trouble and
we die. Men's minds have lingered on these facts. "Man that is
born of a woman, is of few days, and full of trouble." Job did
not add to this that he dies, but elsewhere it appears as the bond for
mankind. Reacting to this, the reflective minds of the race have felt
that here was the unity of man, here the basis of a brotherhood. True,
the Fatherhood of God was given as a logical reason, but always in every
appeal there is the note, "Do we not all die? Why hate one another
then?"
So to the fear of death, as with every other fear, man has reacted basely
and nobly. Man is the only animal that foresees death and he is the
only one to elaborate ethics and religion. There is more than an accidental
connection between these two facts.
Fear in its foreseeing character is termed worry. As a phase of character,
the liability to worry is of such importance that book after book has
dealt with the subject,--emphasizing the dangers, the futility and cowardice
of it. It is surely idle to tell people not to worry who live continually
on the brink of economic disaster, or who are facing real danger. But
there are types who find in every possibility of injury a formidable
threat, who are thrown into anguish when they contemplate any evil,
remote or unlikely as it may be. The present and future are not faced
with courage or equanimity; they present themselves as a never-ending
series of threats; threat to health, to fortune, to family, reputation,
everything. Horace Fletcher called this type of forethought "fear
thought." Men and women, brave enough when face to face with actualities,
are cowards when confronting remote possibilities. The housewife especially
is one of these worriers, and her mind has an affinity for the terrible.
I have described her elsewhere,[1] but she has her prototype among men.
[1] "The Nervous Housewife."
Fear of this type is an injury to the body and character both and is
one of the causes and effects of the widespread neurasthenia of our
day. For fear injures sleep, and this brings on fatigue and fatigue
breeds more fear, --a vicious circle indeed. Fear disturbs digestion
and the energy of the organism is thereby lowered. The greatest damage
by worry is done in the hypochondriac, the worrier about health. Here,
in addition to the effects of fear, introspection and a minute attention
to every pain and ache demoralize the character, for the sufferer cannot
pay attention to anything else. He becomes selfish, ego-centric and
without the wholesome interest in life as an adventure. I doubt if there
is enough good in too minute a popular education on disease and health
preservation. Morbid attention to health often results, an evil worse
than sickness.
Sometimes, instead of the indiscriminate fear of worry, there are localized
fears, called phobias, which creep or spring into a man's thoughts and
render him miserable. Thus there is fear of high places, of low places,
of darkness, of open places, of closed places,--fear of dirt, fear of
poison and of almost everything else. A bright young man was locked,
at the age of fourteen, in a closed dark shanty; when released he rushed
home in the greatest terror. Since then he has been afflicted with a
fear of leaving home. He dares venture only about fifty feet and then
is impelled to run back. If anybody hinders his return he attacks them;
if the door is locked he breaks through a window. He is in a veritable
panic, and yet presents no other fears; is a reader and thinker, clever
at his work (he is a painter), but his fear remains inaccessible and
uncontrollable. Often one experience of this kind builds up an obsessive
fear; the associations left by the experience give the fear an open
pathway to consciousness, without any inhibiting power. As in this case,
the whole life of the individual becomes changed.
Throughout history the man without fear has been idolized. The hero
is courageous, that he must be; the coward is despised, whatever good
may be in him. Consequently, there is in most men a fear of showing
fear; and pride, self-respect, often urge men on when they really fear.
This pride is greater in some races than others--in the Indian and the
Anglo-Saxon--but the Oriental does not think it wrong to be afraid.
In the Great War this fear of showing fear played a great role in producing
shell shock, in that men shrank from actual cowardice but easily developed
neuroses which carried them from the fighting line.
There is this to add to this little sketch of fear: it turns easily
to anger for both are responses to a threat. I remember in my boyhood
being mortally afraid of a larger boy who one day chased me, caught
me and started to "beat me up." Before I knew it, the fear
had gone and I was fighting him with such fierceness and fury that in
amazement he ran away. So a rat, cornered, becomes fierce and blood-thirsty
and there is always the danger, in the use of fear as a weapon, that
it become changed quite readily into the fighting spirit.
7. Anger is a primitive reaction and is the backbone of the fighting
spirit. It tends to displace fear, though it may be combined with it,
in one of the most unhappy --because helpless--mental states. Anger
in its commonest form is a violent energizer and in the stiffened muscles,
the set jaw, bared teeth, and the forward-thrust head and arms one sees
the animal prepared to fight. Anger is aroused at any obstruction, any
threat or injury, from physical violences to the so-called "slight."
In fact, it is the intent of the opponent as understood that makes up
the stimulus to anger in the human being. We forgive a blow if it is
accidental, but even a touch, if in malice or in contempt, arouses a
fierce reaction.
We call becoming angry too readily "losing the temper," and
there is a type known as the irascible in whom anger is the readiest
emotion. The bluff English squire, the man in authority, is this type,
and his anger lasts. In its lesser form anger becomes irritability,
a reaction common to the neurotic and the weak. When anger is not frank,
but manifests itself by a lowered brow and sidelong look, we speak of
sullenness or surliness. The sullen or surly person, chronically ill-tempered
and hostile, is regarded as unsocial and dangerous, whereas the most
lovable persons are quick to anger and quick to repent.
As a man's anger, so is he. There are some whose anger is always a reaction
against interference with their comfort, their dignity, their property
and their will; it never by any chance is aroused by the wrongs of others.
Usually, however, these folk camouflage their motive. "It's the
principle of the thing I object to," is its commonest social disguise,
which sometimes successfully hides the real motive from the egoist himself.
Wherever wills and purposes meet in conflict, there anger, or its offshoot,
contempt, is present, and the more egoistic one is, the more egoistic
the sources of anger.
The explosiveness of the anger will depend on the power of inhibition
and the power of the intelligence, as well as on the strength of the
opponent. There are enough whose temper is uncontrolled in the presence
of the weak who manage to be quite calm in the presence of the strong.
I believe there is much less difference amongst races in this respect
than we suspect, and there is more in tradition and training. There
was a time when it was perfectly proper for a gentleman to lose his
temper, but now that it is held "bad form," most gentlemen
manage to control it.
If it is common for men to become angry at ego-injury, there are in
this world, as its leaven of reform, noble spirits who become angry
at the wrongs of others. The world owes its progress to those whose
anger, sustained and intellectualized, becomes the power behind reform;
to those like Abraham Lincoln, who vowed to destroy slavery because
he saw a slave sold down the river; to the Pinels, outraged by the treatment
of the insane; to the sturdy "Indignant Citizen," who writes
to newspapers about what "is none of his business," but who
is too angry to keep still, and whose anger makes public opinion. Whether
anger is useful or not depends upon its cause and the methods it employs.
Righteous anger, whether against one's own wrongs or the wrongs of others,
is the hall-mark of the brave and noble spirit; mean, egoistic anger
is a great world danger, born of prejudice and egoism. A violent-tempered
child may be such because he is outraged by wrong; if so, teach him
control but do not tell him in modern wishy-washy fashion that "one
must never get angry." Control it, intellectualize it, do not permit
it to destroy effectiveness, as it is prone to do; but it cannot be
eliminated without endangering personality.
Fear and anger have this in common: whenever the controlling energy
of the mind goes, as in illness, fatigue or early mental disease, they
become more prominent and uncontrolled. This cannot be overemphasized.
When a man (or woman) finds himself continually getting apprehensive
and irritable, then it is the time to ask, "What's the matter with
me," and to get expert opinion on the subject.
These two emotions are in more need of rationalizing and intelligent
control than the other emotions, for they are more explosive. Certainly
of anger it is truly said that "He who is master of himself is
greater than he who taketh a city." The angry man is disliked,
he arouses unpleasant feelings, he is unpopular and a nuisance and a
danger in the view of his fellows. The underlying idea underneath courtesy
and social regulations is to avoid anger and humiliation. Controversial
subjects are avoided, and one must not brag or display concern because
these things cause anger and disgust. Politeness and tact are essential
to turn away wrath, to avoid that ego injury that brings anger.
We contrast with the brusque type, careless of whether he arouses anger,
the tactful, which conciliates by avoiding prejudice, and which hates
force and anger as unpleasant. Against the quick to anger there is the
slow type, whose anger may be enduring. We may contrast egoistic anger
with the altruistic and oppose the anger which is effective with the
anger that disturbs reason and judgment; intellectual anger against
brute anger. Rarely do men show anger to their superiors; extreme provocation
and desperation are necessary. Men flare up easily against equals but
more easily and with mingled contempt against the inferior. Anger, though
behind the fighting spirit, need not bluster or storm; usually that
is a "worked up" condition intended in a naive way to frighten
and intimidate, or through disgust, to win a point. Anger is not necessarily
courage, which replaces it the higher up one goes in culture.
8. Disgust, also a primary emotion, is one of the basic reactions of
life and civilization. Literally "disagreeable taste," its
facial expression, with mouth open and lower lip drawn down,[1] is that
preliminary to vomiting. We eject or retract when disgusted; we are
not afraid nor are we angry. We say "he--or she, or it--makes me
sick," and this is the stock phrase of disgust. Inelegant as it
is, it exactly expresses the situation. Disgust easily mingles with
fear and anger; it is often dispelled by curiosity and interest, as
in the morbid, as in medical science, and it of ten displaces less intense
curiosity and interest.
[1] See Darwin's "The Expression of Emotions
in Man and Animals," --a great book by a great man.
After anything has been accepted as standard in cleanliness, a deviation
in a "lower" direction causes disgust. Those who are accustomed
to clean tablecloths, clean linen are disgusted by dirty tablecloths,
dirty linen. The excreta of the body have been so effectively tabooed,
in the interest perhaps of sanitation, that their sight or smell is
disgusting, and they are used as symbols of disgust in everyday language.
Indeed, the so-called animal functions have to be decorated and ceremonialized
to avoid disgust. We turn with ridicule and repugnance from him who
eats without "manners" and one of the functions of manners
is to avoid arousing disgust.
Disgust kills desire and passion, and from that fact we may trace a
large part of moral progress. Satiety brings a slight disgust; thus
after a heavy meal there may be contentment but the sight of food is
not at all appealing and often enough rather repelling. In the sex field,
a deep repulsion is often felt when lust alone has brought the man and
woman together or when the situation is illegal or unhallowed. With
satisfaction of desire, the inhibiting forces come to their own, and
the violence of repentance and disgust may be extreme. Stanley Hall,
Havelock Ellis and other writers lay stress on this; and, indeed, one
of the bases of asceticism is this disgust. Further, when we have no
desires or passion, the sight of others hugging and kissing, or acting
"intimate" in any way, is usually disgusting, an offense against
"good taste" based on the "bad taste" it arouses
in the observer. In memory we are often disgusted at what we did in
the heat of desire, but usually memory itself does not prevent us from
repeating the act; desire itself must slacken. Thus the old are often
intensely disgusted at the conduct of the young, and it is never wise
for a young couple to live with older people. For in the early days
of married life the intensity of the intimate feelings needs seclusion
in order to avoid disgusting others. It is no accident that Dame Grundy
is depicted as an elderly person with a "sour look"; her prudishness
has an origin in disgust at that which she has outlived. Sometimes the
old are wise--not often enough--and then their humor, love and sympathy
keeps them from disgust.
Love counteracts disgust. The young girl who turns in loathing from
uncleanliness finds it easy and a pleasure to care for her soiled baby.
In fact, tender feeling of any kind overcomes--or tends to overcome--disgust;
and pity, the tenderest of all feelings and without passion, impels
us to march into the very jaws of disgust. The angry may have no pity,--but
they are not less unkind in commission than the disgusted are unkind
in omission. Thus a too refined breeding leads people away from effective
pity and that sturdiness of conduct which is real philanthropy. Indeed,
too much of refinement increases the number of disgusting things in
the world; he who must have this or that luxury is not so much pleased
with it as disgusted without it. Raising standards in things material
cannot increase the happiness or contentment of the world, for it merely
makes men impatient and disgusted at lesser standards. We cannot hope
to increase happiness through the material improvements of civilization.
Self-disgust and shame are not identical but are so kindred that shame
may well be studied here. Shame is lowered self-valuation, brought on
by social or self-disapproval. Usually it is acute and, like fear, it
tends to make the individual hide or fly. It is based on insight, and
there are thus some who are never ashamed, simply because they do not
understand disapproval. Shame is essentially a feeling of inferiority,
and when we say to a man, "Shame on you," we say, "You
have done wrong, humble yourself, be little!" When we say, "I
am ashamed of you," we say, "I had pride in you; I enlarged
myself through you, and now you make me little." When the community
cries shame, it uses a force that redresses wrong by the need of the
one addressed to vindicate himself. When a man feels shame he feels
small, inferior in his own eyes and in the eyes of others. He feels
impelled, if he is generous, to make amends or to do penance, and thus
he recovers his self-esteem. Unfortunately, shame arises more frequently
and often more violently from a violation of custom and manner than
from a violation of ethics or morals. Thus we are more ashamed of the
so-called "bad break" than of our failures to be kind. Sometimes
our fellow feeling is so strong that we avoid seeing any one who is
humiliated or embarrassed, because sympathy spreads his feeling to us.
Gentle people are those who dislike to shame any one else, and often
one of this type will endure being wronged rather than reprimand or
cause humiliation and shame. Let something be said to shame any member
of a company and a feeling of shame spreads through the group, except
in the case of those who are very hostile.
Disgust, too, is extremely contagious, especially its manifestations.
One of the most crude of all manifestations, to spit upon some one,
is a symbol taken from disgust, though it has come to mean contempt,
which is a mixture of hatred and disgust.
To raise the tastes and not raise the acquisitions is a sure way to
bring about chronic disgust, which is really an angry dissatisfaction
mixed with disgust. This type of reaction is very common as a factor
in neurasthenia. In fact, my motto is "search for the disgust"
in all cases of neurasthenia and "search for it in the intimate
often secret desires and relationships. Seek for it in the husband-wife
relationship, especially from the standpoint of the wife." Women,
we say, are more refined in their feelings than men, which is another
way of saying they are more easily disgusted and therefore more easily
injured. For disgust is an injury, when chronic or too easily elicited,
and is then a sign and symbol of weakness.
Thus disgust is a great reenforcer of social taboo and custom, as well
as morality. Just as it fails to keep us from eating the wrong kind
of foods, so it may fail to keep us from the wrong conduct. Like every
emotion it is only in part adapted to our lives, and in those people
where it becomes a prominent emotion it is a great mischief worker,
subordinating life to finickiness and hindering the growth of generous
feeling.
9. We come to two opposite emotions, very readily considered together.
One of the linkings of opposites is in the connection of Joy and Sorrow.
Whether these are primary emotions or outgrowths of Pleasure and Pain
I leave to others. For Shand the fact that Joy tends to prolong a situation
in which it occurs raises it into an active emotion.
Joy is perhaps the most energizing of the emotions for it tends to express
itself in shouts, smiles and laughter, dancing and leaping. Sorrow ordinarily
is quite the reverse and expresses itself by immobility, bowed head
and hands that shut out from the view the sights of the world. There
is, however, a quiet joy called relief, which is like sailing into a
smooth, safe harbor after a tempestuous voyage; and there is an agitated
grief, with lamentation, the wringing of hands and self-punishment of
a frantic kind. Joy and triumph are closely associated, sorrow and defeat
likewise. There are some whose rivalry-competitive feelings are so widespread
that they cannot rejoice even at the triumph of a friend, and a little
of that nature is in even the noblest of us. There are others who find
sorrow in defeat of an enemy, so widespread is their sympathy. This
is the generous victor. For the most of us youth is the most joyous
period because youth finds in its pleasures a novelty and freshness
that tend to disappear with experience. For the same reason the sorrow
of youth, though evanescent, is unreasoning and intense.
Joy and sorrow are reactions and they are noble or the reverse, according
to the nature of the person. Joy may be noble, sensuous, trivial or
mean; many a "jolly" person is such because he has no real
sympathy. At the present time not one of us could rejoice over anything
could we SEE and sympathize deeply with the misery of Europe and China,
to say nothing of that in our own country. Nay, any wrong to others
would blast all our pleasure, could we really feel it. Fortunately only
a few are so cursed with sympathy. When the capacity for joyous feeling
is joined with fortitude or endurance, then we have the really cheerful,
who spread their feeling everywhere, whom all men love. Where cheerfulness
is due to lack of sympathy and understanding, we speak of a cheerful
idiot; and well does that type merit the name. There is a modern cult
whose followers sing "La, la, la" at all times and places,
who minimize all misfortune, crime, suffering, who find "good in
everything,"--the "Pollyana" tribe. My objection to them
is based on this,--that mankind must see clearly in order to rid itself
of unnecessary suffering. Hiding one's head (and brains) in a desert
of optimism merely perpetuates evil, even though one sufferer here and
there is deluded into happiness.
Sorrow may enrich the nature or it may embitter and narrow it. Wisdom
may spring from it; indeed, who can be wise who has not sorrowed? Says
Goethe:
"Wer nie sein Brot in Thranen ass Wer nie die kummervollen Nachte
Auf seinem Bette weinend sass Er weiss Euch nicht--himmelischen Machte."
The afflicted in their sorrow may turn from self-seeking to God and
good deeds. But sorrow may come in a trivial nature from trivial causes;
the soul may be plunged into despair because one has been denied a gift
or a pleasure. The demonstrativeness of grief or sorrow is not at all
in proportion to the emotion felt; it is more often based on the effort
to get sympathy and help. For sorrow is "Help, help" in one
form or another, even though one refuses to be comforted. All our emotions,
because they are socially powerful, become somewhat theatrical; in some
completely theatrical. We are so constituted that emotional display
is not indifferent to us; it pleases, repels, annoys, angers, frightens,
disgusts or awes us according to the kind of emotion displayed, the
displayer and the circumstances.
The psychologists speak of sympathy as this susceptibility to the emotions
of others, but there is an antipathy to their emotions, as well. If
we feel that our emotions will be "well received," we do not
fear to display them, and therein is one of the uses of the friend.
If we feel that they will be poorly received, that they will annoy or
anger or disgust, we strive to repress them. The expression of emotion,
especially of fear and sorrow, has become synonymous with weakness,
and a powerful self-feeling operates against their display, especially
in adults, men and certain races. It is no accident that the greatest
actors are from the Latin and Hebrew races, for there is a certain theatricality
in fear and sorrow that those schooled to repression lose. We resent
what we call insincerity in emotional expression because we fear being
"fooled," and there are many whose experiences in being "fooled"
chill sympathy with doubt. We resent insincere sympathy, on the other
hand, because we regret showing weakness before those to whom that weakness
is regarded as such and who perhaps rejoice at it as ridiculous. We
like the emotional expression of children because we can always sympathize,
through our tender feeling with them, and their very sincerity pleases
as well.
Is there a harm in the repression of emotion?[1] Is emotion a heaped-up
tension which, unless it is discharged, causes damage? Shall man inhibit
his anger, fear, joy, sorrow, disgust, at least in some measure, or
shall he express them in gesture, speech and act? The answer is obvious:
he must control them, and in that term control we mean, not inhibition,
not expression in its naive sense, but that combination of inhibition,
expression and intelligent act we call adjustment. To express fear in
the face of danger or anger at an offense might thwart the whole life's
purpose, might bring disaster and ruin. The emotions are poor adjustments
in their most violent form, their natural form, and invite disaster
by clouding the intelligence and obscuring permanent purposes. Therefore,
they must be controlled. To establish this control is a primary function
of training and intelligence and does no harm unless carried to excess.
True, there is a relief in emotional expression, a wiping out of sorrow
by tears, an increase of the pleasure of joy in freely laughing, a discharge
of anger in the blow or the hot word, even the profane word. There is
a time and a place for these things, and to get so "controlled"
that one rarely laughs or shows sadness or anger is to atrophy, to dry
up. But the emotional expression makes it easy to become an habitual
weeper or stormer, makes it easy to become the over-emotional type,
whose reaction to life is futile, undignified and a bodily injury. For
emotion is in large part a display of energy, and the overemotional
rarely escape the depleted neurasthenic state. In fact, hysteria and
neurasthenia are much more common in the races freely expressing emotion
than in the stolid, repressed races. Jew, Italian, French and Irish
figure much more largely than English, Scotch or Norwegian in the statistics
of neurasthenia and hysteria.
[1] Isador N. Coriat's book, "The Repression
of Emotions" deals with the subject from psychoanalytic. point
of view.
10. I have said but little on other emotions,--on admiration, surprise
and awe. This group of affective states is of great importance. Surprise
may be either agreeable or disagreeable and is our reaction to the unexpected.
Its expression, facially and of body, is quite characteristic, with
staring eyes and mouth slightly open, raised eyebrows, hands hanging
with fingers tensely spread apart, so that a thing held therein is apt
to drop. Surprise heightens the feeling of internal tension, and in
all excitement it is an element, in that the novel brings excitement
and surprise, whereas the accustomed gives little excitement or surprises.
In all wit and humor surprise is part of the technique and constitutes
part of the pleasure. Surprise usually heightens the succeeding feeling,
whether of joy, sorrow, anger, fear, pleasure or pain, or in any form.
But sometimes the effect of surprise is so benumbing that an incapacity
to feel, to realize, is the most marked result and it is only afterward
that the proper emotion or feeling becomes manifest.
The reaction to the unexpected is an important adjustment in character.
There are situations beyond the power of any of us quickly to adjust
ourselves to and we expect the great catastrophe to surprise and overwhelm.
Nevertheless, we judge people by the way they react to the unexpected;
the man who rallies quickly from the confusion of surprise is, we say,
"cool-headed," keeps his wits about him; and the man who does
not so rally or adjust "loses his head,"--"loses his
wits." Part of this cool-headedness is not only the rallying from
surprise but also the throwing off of fear. A warning has for its purpose,
"Don't be surprised!" and training must teach resources against
the unexpected. "If you expect everything you are armed against
half the trouble of the world." The cautious in character minimize
the number of surprises they may get by preparing. The impulsive, who
rarely prepare, are always in danger from the unforeseen. Aside from
preparation and knowledge, there is in the condition of the organism
a big factor in the reaction to the unexpected. Fatigue, neurasthenia,
hysteria and certain depressed conditions render a man more liable to
react excessively and badly to surprise. The tired soldier has lessened
resources in wit and courage when surprised, for fatigue heightens the
confusion and numbness of surprise and decreases the scope of intelligent
conduct. Choice is made difficult, and the neurasthenic doubt is transformed
to impotence by surprise.
Face to face with what is recognized as superior to ourselves in a quality
we hold to be good, we fall into that emotional state, a mingling of
surprise and pleasure, called admiration. In its original usage, admiration
meant wonder, and there is in all admiration something of that feeling
which is born in the presence of the superior. The more profound the
admiration, the greater is the proportion of wonder in the feeling.
We find it difficult to admire where the competitive feeling is strongly
aroused, though there are some who can do so. It is the essence of good
sportsmanship, the ideal aimed at, to admire the rival for his good
qualities, though sticking fast to one's confidence in oneself. The
English and American athletes, perhaps also the athletes of other countries,
make this part of their code of conduct and so are impelled to act in
a way not entirely sincere. Wherever jealousy or envy are strongly aroused,
admiration is impossible, and so it comes about that men find it easy
to praise men in other noncompetitive fields or for qualities in which
they are not competing. Thus an author may strongly admire an athlete
or a novelist may praise the historian; a beautiful woman admires another
for her learning, though with some reservation in her praise, and a
successful business man admires the self-sacrificing scientist, albeit
there is a little complacency in his approval.
He is truly generous-hearted who can admire his competitor. I do not
mean lip-admiration, through the fear of being held jealous. Many a
man joins in the praise of one who has outstripped him, with envy gnawing
at his heart, and waits for the first note of criticism to get out the
hammer. "He is very fine--but" is the formula, and either
through innuendo, insinuation or direct attack, the "subordinate"
statement becomes the most sincere and significant. But there are those
who can admire their conqueror, not only through the masochism that
lurks in all of us, but because they have lifted their ideal of achievement
and character higher than their own possibilities and seek in others
the perfection they cannot hope to have in themselves. In other words,
where competition is hopeless, in the presence of the greatly superior,
a feeling of humility which is really admiration to the point of worship
comes over us, and we can glory in the quality we love. To admire is
to recede the ego-feeling, is to feel oneself in an ecstasy that becomes
mystical, and in that sense the contradiction arises that we feel ourselves
larger in a unification with the admired one.
Each age, each country, each group and each family set up the objects
and qualities for admiration, in a word, the ideals. Out of these the
individual selects his specialties in admiration, according to his nature
and training. All the world admires vigor, strength, courage and endurance,--and
these in their physical aspects. The hero of all times has had these
qualities: he is energetic, capable of feats beyond the power of others,
is fearless and bears his ills with equanimity. Beauty, especially in
the woman, but also in man, has received an over-great share of homage,
but here "tastes differ." We have no difficulty in agreement
on what constitutes strength, and we have objective tests for its measurement;
but who can agree on beauty? What one race prizes as its fairest is
scorned by another race. We laugh at the ideal of beauty of the Hottentot,
and the physical peculiarity they praise most either disgusts or amuses
us. But what is there about a white skin more lovely than a black one,
and why thrill over blue eyes and neglect the brown ones? What is the
rationale for the admiration of slimness as against stoutness? Indeed,
there are races who would turn with scorn from our slender debutante[1]
and worship their more buxom heavy-busted and wide-hipped beauties.
The only "rational" beauty in face and figure is that which
stands as the outer mask of health, vigor, intelligence and normal procreative
function. The standards set up in each age and place usually arise from
local pride, from the familiar type. The Mongolian who finds beauty
in his slanting-eyed, wide-cheek boned, yellow mate has as valid a sanction
as the Anglo-Saxon who worships at the shrine of his wide-eyed, straight-nosed
blonde.
[1] The peasant type, greatly admired by the agricultural
folk of Central Europe, is stout and ruddy. This is a better ideal of
beauty than the lily-white, slender and dainty maid of the cultured,
who very often can neither work nor bear and nurse children.
When we leave the
physical qualities and pass to the mental we again find a lack of agreement
as to the admirable. All agree that intelligence is to be admired, but
how shall that intelligence be manifested? In practice, the major part
of the world admires the intelligence that is financially and socially
successful, and the rich and powerful have the greatest share of the
world's praise. Power, strength, and superiority command admiration,
even from the unwilling, and the philosopher who stands aloof from the
world and is without real strength finds himself admiring a crude, bustling
fellow ordering men about. True, we admire such acknowledged great intelligences
as Plato, Galileo, Newton, Pascal, Darwin, etc., but in reality only
a fragment of the men and women of any country know anything at all
about these men, and the admiration of most is an acceptance of the
authority of others as to what it is proper to admire. Genuine admiration
is in proportion to the intelligence and idealism of the admirer. And
there are in this country a thousand intense admirers of Babe Ruth and
his mighty baseball club to one who pours out his soul before the image
of Pasteur. You may know a man (or woman) not by his lip-homage, but
by what he genuinely admires, by that which evokes his real enthusiasm
and praise. Judge by that and then note that the most constant admiration
of the women of our country goes out to actresses, actors, professional
beauties, with popular authors and lecturers a bad second, and that
of the men is evoked by prize fighters, ball players and the rich. No
wonder the problems of the world find no solution, for it is only by
fits and starts that men and women admire real intelligence and real
ability. The orator has more admirers than the thinker, and this is
the curse of politics; the executive has more admirers than the research
worker, and this is the bane of industry; the entertainer is more admired
than the educator, and that is why Charlie Chaplin makes a million a
year and President Eliot received only a few thousand. The race and
the nation has its generous enthusiasms and its bursts of admiration
for the noble, but its real admiration it gives to those whom it best
understands. Fortunately the leaders of the race have more of generosity
and fine admiration than have the mass they lead. Left to itself, the
mass of the race limits its hero-worship to the lesser, unworthy race
of heroes.
The school histories, which should emphasize the admirable as well as
point out the reverse, have played a poor role in education. The hero
they depict is the warrior, and they fire the hearts of the child with
admiration and desire for emulation. They say almost nothing of the
great inventors, scientists and philanthropists. The teaching of history
should, above all, set up heroes for the child to study, admire and
emulate. "When the half-gods go the gods arrive." The stage
of history as taught is cluttered with the tin-plate shedders of blood
to the exclusion of the greater men.[1]
[1] Plutarch's Lives are an example of the praise
and place given to the soldier and orator; and many a child, reading
them, has burned to be an Alexander or a Caesar. Wells' History, with
all its defects, pushes the "conquerors" to their real place
as enemies of the race.
When the object
that confronts us is so superior, so vast, that we sink into insignificance,
then admiration takes on a tinge of fear in the state or feeling of
awe. All men feel awe in the presence of strength and mystery, so that
the concept of God is that most wrapped up with this emotion, and the
ceremonies with which kings and institutions have been surrounded strike
awe by their magnificence and mystery into the hearts of the governed.
We contemplate natural objects, such as mountains, mighty rivers and
the oceans, with awe because we feel so little and puny in comparison,
and we do not "enjoy" contemplating them because we hate to
feel little. Or else we grow familiar with them, and the awe disappears.
The popular and the familiar are never awe-full, and even death loses
in dignity when one has dissected a few bodies. So objects viewed by
night or in gloom inspire awe, though seen by day they are stripped
of mystery and interest. To the adolescent boy, woman is a creature
to be regarded with awe,--beautiful, strangely powerful and mysterious.
To the grown-up man, enriched and disillusioned by a few experiences,
woman, though still loved, is no longer worshiped.
Though the reverent spirit is admirable and poetic, it is not by itself
socially valuable. It has been played upon by every false prophet, every
enslaving institution. It prevents free inquiry; it says to science,
"Do not inquire here. They who believe do not investigate. This
is too holy a place for you." We who believe in science deny that
anything can be so holy that it can be cheapened by light, and we believe
that face to face with the essential mysteries of life itself even the
most assiduous and matter-of-fact must feel awe. Man, the little, has
probed into the secrets of the universe of which he is a part. What
he has learned, what he can learn, make him bow his head with a reverence
no worshiper of dogmatic mysteries can ever feel.
CHAPTER X. COURAGE, RESIGNATION, SUBLIMATION, PATIENCE, THE WISH,
AND ANHEDONIA
In the preceding chapter we spoke of the feeling of energy and certain
of the basic emotions--such as fear, anger, joy, sorrow, disgust, surprise
and admiration. It is important to know that rarely does a man react
to any life situation in which the feeling of energy is not an emotional
constituent and governs in a general way that reaction. Moreover, fear,
anger, joy and the other feelings described mingle with this energy
feeling and so are built great systems of the affective life.
1. Courage is one of these systems. It is not merely the absence of
fear that constitutes courage, though we interchange "fearless"
with "courageous." Frequently it is the conquest of fear by
the man himself that leads him to the highest courage. There is a type
of courage based on the lack of imagination, the inability to see ahead
the disaster that lurks around every corner. There is another type of
courage based on the philosophy that to lose control of oneself is the
greatest disaster. There are the nobly proud, whose conception of "ought,"
of "noblesse oblige," makes them the real aristocrats of the
race.
The fierce, the predisposed to anger are usually courageous. Unrestrained
anger tends to break down imagination and foresight; caution disappears
and the smallest will attack the largest. In racial propaganda, one
way to arouse courage is to arouse anger. The enemy is represented as
all that is despicable and mean and as threatening the women and children,
religion, or the flag. It is not sufficient to arouse hate, for hate
may fear. While individuals of a fierce type may be cowards, and the
gentle often enough are heroes, the history of the race shows that physical
courage resides more with the fierce races than with the gentle.
Those who feel themselves superior in strength and energy are much more
apt to be courageous than those who feel themselves inferior. In fact,
the latter have to force themselves to courage, whereas the former's
courage is spontaneous. Men do not fear to be alone in a house as women
do, largely because men feel themselves equal to coping with intruders,
who are sure to be men, while women do not. One of the early signs of
chronic sickness is a feeling of fear, a loss of courage, based on a
feeling of inferiority to emergencies. The Spartans made it part of
that development of courage for which their name stands, to develop
the physique of both their men and women. Their example, in rational
measure, should be followed by all education, for courage is essential
to nobility of character. I emphasize that such training should be extended
to both male and female, for we cannot expect to have a timorous mother
efficiently educate her boy to be brave, to say nothing of the fact
that her own happiness and efficiency rest on courage.
Tradition is a mighty factor in the production of courage. To feel that
something is expected of one because one's ancestors lived up to a high
standard becomes a guiding feeling in life. Not to be inferior, not
to disappoint expectation, to maintain the tradition that a "So-and-So"
never shows the white feather, makes, heroes of the soldiers of famous
regiments, of firemen and policemen, of priests, of the scions of distinguished
families, aye, even of races. To every man in the grip of a glorious
tradition it seems as if those back of him are not really dead, as if
they stand with him, and speak with his voice and act in his deeds.
The doctor who knows of the martyrs of his profession and knows that
in the code of his calling there are no diseases he must hesitate to
face, goes with equanimity where others who are braver in facing death
of other kinds do not dare to enter.
Courage is competitive, courage is cooperative, as is every other phase
of the mental life of men. We gather courage as we watch a fellow worker
face his danger with a brave spirit, for we will not be outdone. Amour
propre will not permit us to cringe or give in, though we are weary
to death of a struggle. But also we thrill with a common feeling at
the sight of the hero holding his own, we are enthused by it, we wish
to be with him; and his shining example moves us to a fellowship in
courage. We find courage in the belief that others are "with us,"
whether that courage faces physical or moral danger. To be "with"
a man is to more than double his resources of strength, intelligence
and courage; it is more than an addition, for it multiplies all his
virtues and eliminates his defects. The sum total is the Hero. I wonder
if there really ever has been a truly lonely hero, if always there has
not been some one who said, "I have faith in you; I am with you!"
If a man has lacked human backing, he has said to himself, "The
Highest of all is with me, though I seem to stand alone. God gives me
courage!"
In a profoundly intellectual way, courage depends on a feeling that
one is useful, not futile. Men lose courage, in the sense of brave and
determined effort, when it seems as if progress has ceased and their
place in the world has disappeared. This one sees frequently in middle-aged
men, who find themselves relegated to secondary places by younger men,
who feel that they are slipping and soon will be dependents.
Hope, the foreseeing of a possible success, is necessary for most courage,
though now and then despair acts with a courage that is largely pride.
The idea of a future world has given more courage to man in his difficulties
than all other conceptions together, for the essence of the belief in
immortality is to transfer hope and success from the tangle of this
world to the clear, untroubled heavenly other world.
2. Here we must consider other, related qualities. The office of intelligence
is to adjust man to a complex world, to furnish pathways to a goal which
instinct perhaps chooses. Suppose a goal reached,--say marriage is entered
upon with the one that we think is to give us that satisfaction and
happiness we long for. The marriage does not so result, either because
we have expected too much, or because the partner falls below a reasonable
expectation, or because contradictory elements in the natures of the
wedded pair cannot be reconciled. Unity is not reached; disunion results,
almost, let us say, from the very start. What happens?
Many adjustments may take place. A crude one is that the pair, after
much quarreling, decide to separate or become divorced, or on a still
cruder, ignoble level, one or the other runs away, deserts the family.
A common adjustment, of an anti-social kind, forms the basis of much
of modern and ancient literature; the partners seek compensation elsewhere,
enter into illicit love affairs and maintain a dual existence which
rarely is peaceful or happy. Indeed, the nature of the situation, with
outraged conscience and fear of exposure, prevents happiness.
But there are those who in such a situation do what is known as "make
the best of it." They avoid quarrels, they keep up the pretense
of affection, they seek to discover the good qualities in the mate;
they are, as we say, resigned to the situation. To be resigned is to
accept an evil with calmness and equanimity, but without energy. Resignation
and courage are closely related, though the former is a rather pallid
member of the family. The poor and the miserable everywhere practise
this virtue; the church has raised it perforce to the most needed of
qualities; it is a sort of policy of nonresistance to the evils of the
world and one's own lot.
But resignation represents only one type of legitimate adjustment, of
sublimation. By sublimation is meant the process of using the energy
of a repressed desire and purpose for some "higher" end. Thus
in the case of domestic unhappiness the man may plunge himself deeply
into work and even be unconscious of the source of his energy. This
type of adjustment is thus a form of compensation and is seen everywhere.
In the case of many a woman who gives herself over to her children without
stint you may find this sublimation against the disappearance of romance,
even if no actual unhappiness exists. Where a woman is childless, perforce
and not per will, an intense communal activity often develops, leading
to good if that activity is intelligent, leading to harm if it is not.
For sublimation develops the crank and pest as well as the reformer.
In every half-baked reform movement you find those who are striving
to sublimate for a thwarted instinct or purpose.[1]
[1] The historian, Higginson, put it well when he
said substantially, "There is a fringe of insanity around all reform."
Sublimation is the mark of the personality that will not admit defeat
even to itself. The one who does admit defeat becomes resigned or seeks
illicit compensation,--other men, other women, drink. Freud and his
followers believe that the neurasthenic or hysteric is striving to find
compensation through his symptoms or that he seeks to fly from the situation
that way. I believe that the symptoms of the neurasthenic and hysteric
often find a use in this way, but are not caused by an effort for compensation.
That is, a neurasthenic may learn that his or her pains or aches give
advantages in sympathy, relief from hard tasks or disagreeable situations;
that they cover up or are an excuse for failure and inferiority,--but
the symptoms arise originally from defects in character or because of
the physical and social situation. Nevertheless, it is well to keep
in mind, when dealing with the "nervous," that often enough
their weaknesses are related to something they may gain through them.
This I have called elsewhere "Will to power through weakness,"
and it is as old as Adam and Eve. The weak have their wills and their
weapons as have the strong.
The highest sublimation, in the face of an insuperable obstacle to purpose
or an inescapable life situation, finds a socially useful substitute
in philanthropy, kindness, charity, achievement of all sorts; the lowest
seeks it in a direct but illicit compensation for the self and in a
way that merely increases the social and personal confusion; and a pathological
sublimation in part, at least, manifests itself iii sickness. These
are the three leading forms, but it must be remembered that there are
no pure types in character; a man may sublimate nobly when his domestic
happiness is threatened but cheat when his business purposes are blocked;
a woman may compensate finely for childlessness but "go all to
pieces" because hair is growing on her face and the beauty she
cherishes must go. Contradictions of all sorts exist, and he is wise
who does not expect too great consistency from himself or others.
3. "Man," says Hocking, "can prolong the vestibule of
his desire through infinity." By the vestibule of desire this philosopher
means the deferring of satisfaction for any impulse or desire. We love,
but we can wait for love's fulfillment; we desire achievement, but we
can work and watch the approach of our goal. Something we desire is
directly ahead, almost in our reach,-- fame, love, riches, vindication,
anything you please from the sensuous to the sublime satisfaction; and
then an obstacle, a delay, appears, and the vestibule is lengthened
out. A man may even plan for the satisfaction he can never hope to have,
and in his greatest ideal that vestibule reaches through eternity.
That quality which enables a man to work and wait, to stand the deferring
of hope and desire, is patience. The classic figure of patience sitting
on a monument is wrong, for she must sit on the eager desires of man.
Nor is patience only the virtue of the good and farseeing, for we find
patience in the rogue and schemer. Altruists may be patient or impatient,
and so may be the selfish. Like most of the qualities, patience is to
be judged by the company it keeps.
Nevertheless, the impatient are very often those of small purposes and
are rarely those of great achievement. For all great purposes have to
be spread over time, have to overcome obstacles, and these must be met
with courage and patience. Impatience is fussiness, fretfulness and
a prime breeder of neurasthenia. Patience is realistic, and though it
may seek perfection it puts up with imperfection as a part of human
life. But here I am drifting into an error against which I warned the
reader,--of making an entity of a conception. People are patient or
impatient, but not necessarily throughout. There are men and women who
fuss and fume over trifles who never falter or fret when their larger
purposes are blocked or deferred. Some cannot stand detail who plan
wisely and with patience. Vice versa, there are meticulous folk, little
people, whose petty obstacles are met with patience and cheerfulness,
who revel in minute detail, but who want returns soon and cannot wait
a long time. We are not to ask of any man whether he is patient but
rather what does he stand or do patiently? What renders him impatient?
A form of impatience of enormous social importance is that which manifests
itself in cure-alls. A man finds that his will overcomes some obstacles.
Eager to apply this, he announces that will cures all ills. Impatient
of evil, men seek to annihilate it by denying its existence or by loudly
chanting that good thoughts will destroy it. These are typical impatient
solutions in the sphere of religion; in the sphere of economics men
urge nationalization, free trade, socialism or laissez faire, or some
law or other to change social structure and human nature. War itself
is the most impatient and consequently most socially destructive method
of the methods of the treatment of evil.
While patience is a virtue, it may also be a vice. One may bear wrongs
too patiently or defer satisfaction too long. One meets every day men
and women who help injustice and iniquity by their patience. We are
too patient, at least with the wrongs of others; perhaps we really do
not feel this intensely or for any length of time. In fact, the difficulty
with most of the preaching of life is its essential insincerity, for
it counsels patience for that which it feels but little. We bear the
troubles of others, on the whole, very well. Nevertheless, there are
Griseldas everywhere whom one would respect far more if they rebelled
against their tyrants and taskmasters. Organized wrong and oppression
owe their existence mainly to the habitual patience of the oppressed.
To be meek and mild and long-suffering in a world containing plenty
of egoists and cannibalistic types is to give them supremacy.[1] We
admire patience only when it is part of a plan of action, not when it
is the mark of a passive nature.
[1] Here the ideals of East and West clash. The East,
bearing a huge burden of misery and essentially pessimistic, exhorts
patience. The West, eager and full of hope, is impatient.
4. Because man foresees
he wishes. Rather than the reasoning animal, we might speak of the human
being as the wishing animal. An automatically working instinct would
produce no wish. The image of something which has been experienced arouses
an excitement akin to the secretion of saliva at the thought of food.
The wish which accompanies the excitement is a dissatisfaction, a tingling,
an incomplete pleasurable emotional state which presses to action. Sensuous
pleasure, power, conformity to the ideal, whatever direction the wish
takes, are sought because of the wish. Right education is to train towards
right wishing.
Because the wish is the prelude to action, it became all powerful in
mythology and superstition. Certain things would help you get your wishes,
others would obstruct them. Wishes became animate and had power,--power
to destroy an enemy, power to help a friend, power to bring good to
yourself. But certain ceremonies had to be observed, and certain people,
magicians and priests had to be utilized in order to give the wish its
power. Wisdom and magic were mainly the ways of obtaining wishes. Childhood
still holds to this, and prayer is a faith that your wish, if placed
before the All-Mighty, will be fulfilled.
Since wishing brings a pleasurable excitement, it has its dangers, in
the daydream where wishes are fulfilled without effort. Power, glory,
beauty and admiration are obtained; the ugly Duckling becomes the Swan,
Cinderella becomes the Princess, Jack kills the Giant and is honored
by all men; the girl becomes the beauty and heroine of romance; the
boy becomes the Hero, taking over power, wealth and beauty as his due.
The world of romance is largely the wish-world, as is the most of the
stage. The happy ending is our wish-fulfillment, and only the sophisticated
and highly cultured object to it. Moulding the world to the heart's
desire has been the principal business of stage, novel and song.
In the normal relations of life, the wish is the beginning of will,
as something definitely related to a future goal. He who wishes finds
his way to planning and to patient endeavor, IF training, circumstances
and essential character meet. To wish much is the first step in acquiring
much,--but only the first step. For many it is almost the only step,
and in the popular phrase these have a "wishbone in the place of
a backbone." They are the daydreamers, the inveterate readers of
novels, who carry into adult life what is relatively normal in the child.
The introspective are this latter type; rarely indeed do the objective
personalities spend much time in wishing. Undoubtedly it is from the
introspective that the wish as a symbol and worker of power gained its
influence and meaning. This transformation of the wish to a power is
found in all primitive thought, in the power of the blessing and the
curse, in the delusions of certain of the insane who build up the belief
in their greatness out of the wish to be great; and in our days New
Thought and kindred beliefs are modernized forms of this ancient fallacy.
It is a comforting thought to those who seek an optimistic point of
view that most men wish to do right. Very few, indeed, deliberately
wish to do wrong. But the difficulty lies in this, that this wish to
do right camouflages all their wishes, no matter what their essential
character. Thus the contestants on either side of any controversy color
as right their opposing wishes, and cruelties even if they burn people
at the stake for heresy, kill and ruin, degrade and cheat, lie and steal.
Thus has arisen the dictum, "The end justifies the means."
The good desired hallows the methods used, and all kinds of evil have
resulted. Practical wisdom believes that up to a certain point you must
seek your purpose with all the methods at hand. But the temptation to
go farther always operates; a man starts to do something a little underhanded
in behalf of his noble wish and finds himself committed to conduct unqualifiedly
evil.
5. There are certain other emotional states associated with energy and
the energy feeling of great interest. What we call eagerness, enthusiasm,
passion, refers to the intensity of an instinct, wish, desire or purpose.
In childhood this energy is quite striking; it is one of the great charms
of childhood and is a trait all adults envy. For it is the disappearance
of passion, eagerness and enthusiasm that is the tragedy of old age
and which really constitutes getting old. Youth anticipates with eagerness
and relishes with keen satisfaction. The enthusiasm of typical youth
is easily aroused and sweeps it on to action, a feature called impulsiveness.
Sympathy, pity, hope, sex feeling--all the self-feelings and all the
other feelings--are at once more lively and more demonstrative in youth,
and thus it is that in youth the reform spirit is at its height and
recedes as time goes on. What we call "experience" chills
enthusiasm and passion, but though hope deferred and a realization of
the complexity of human affairs has a moderating, inhibiting result,
there is as much or more importance to be attached to bodily changes.
If you could attach to the old man's experience and knowledge the body
of youth, with its fresher arteries, more resilient muscles and joints,
its exuberant glands and fresh bodily juices,--desire, passion, enthusiasm
would return. In the chemistry of life, passion and enthusiasm arise;
sickness, fatigue, experience and time are their antagonists.
This is not to deny that these energy manifestations can be aroused
from the outside. That is the purpose of teaching and preaching; the
purpose of writer and orator. There is a social spread of enthusiasm
that is the most marked feature of crowds and assemblies, and this eagerness
makes a unit of thousands of diverse personalities. Further, the problem
of awakening enthusiasm and desire is the therapeutic problem of the
physician and especially in the condition described as anhedonia.
In anhedonia, as first described by Ribot, mentioned by James, and which
has recently been worked up by myself as a group of symptoms in mental
and nervous disease, as well as in life in general, there is a characteristic
lack of enthusiasm in anticipation and realization, a lack of appetite
and desire, a lack of satisfaction. Nothing appeals, and the values
drop out of existence. The victims of anhedonia at first pass from one
"pleasure" to another, hoping each will please and satisfy,
but it does not. Food, drink, work, play, sex, music, art,--all have
lost their savor. Restless, introspective, with a feeling of unreality
gripping at his heart, the patient finds himself confronting a world
that has lost meaning because it has lost enthusiasm in desire and satisfaction.
How does this unhappy state arise? In the first place, from the very
start of life people differ in the quality of eagerness. There is a
wide variability in these qualities. Of two infants one will call lustily
for whatever he wants, show great glee in anticipating, great eagerness
in seeking, and a high degree of satisfaction when his desire is gratified.
And another will be lackadaisical in his appetite, whimsical, "hard
to please" and much more difficult to keep pleased. Fatigue will
strip the second child of the capacity to eat and sleep, to say nothing
of his desires for social pleasures, whereas it will only dampen the
zeal and eagerness of the first child. There is a hearty simple type
of person who is naively eager and enthusiastic, full of desire, passion
and enthusiasm, who finds joy and satisfaction in simple things, whose
purposes do not grow stale or monotonous; there is a finicky type, easily
displeased and dissatisfied, laying weight on trifles, easily made anhedonic,
victims of any reduction in their own energy (which is on the whole
low) or of any disagreeable event. True, these sensitive folk are creators
of beauty and the esthetic, but also they are the victims of the malady
we are here discussing.
Aside from this temperament, training plays its part. I think it a crime
against childhood to make its joys complex or sophisticated. Too much
adult company and adult amusements are destructive of desire and satisfaction
to the child. A boy or girl whose wishes are at once gratified gets
none of the pleasure of effort and misses one of the essential lessons
of life.--that pleasure and satisfaction must come from the chase and
not from the quarry, from the struggle and effort as well as from the
goal. Montaigne, that wise skeptic, lays much homely emphasis on this,
as indeed all wise men do. But too great a struggle, too desperate an
effort, exhausts, and as a runner lies panting and motionless at the
tape, so we all have seen men reach a desired place after untold privation
and sacrifice and who then found that there seemed to be no energy,
no zeal or desire, no satisfaction left for them. The too eager and
enthusiastic are exposed, like all the overemotional, to great recessions,
great ebbs, in the volume of their feeling and feel for a time the direst
pain in all experience, the death in life of anhedonia.
After an illness, particularly influenza, when recovery has seemingly
taken place, there develops a lack of energy feeling and the whole syndrome
of anhedonia which lasts until the subtle damage done by the disease
passes off. Half or more of the "nervousness" in the world
is based on actual physical trouble, and the rest relates to temperament.
When a great purpose or desire has been built up, has drained all the
enthusiasm of the individual and then suddenly becomes blocked, as in
a love affair, or when a business is threatened or crashes or when beauty
starts to leave,--then one sees the syndrome of anhedonia in essential
purity. A great fear, or an obsessive moral struggle (as when one fights
hopelessly against temptation), has the same effect. The enthusiasm
of purpose and the eagerness of appetite go at once, in certain delicate
people, when pride is seriously injured or when a once established superiority
is crumbled. The humiliated man is anhedonic, even if he is a philosopher.
The most striking cases are seen in men who have been swung from humdrum
existence to the exciting, disagreeable life of war and then back to
their former life. The former task cannot be taken up or is carried
on with great effort; the zest of things has disappeared, and what was
so longed for while in the service seems flat and stale, especially
if it is now realized that there are far more interesting fields of
effort. In a lesser degree, the romances that girls feed on unfit them
for sober realities, and the expectation of marriage built up by romantic
novel and theater do far more harm than good. The triangle play or story
is less mischievous than the one which paints married life as an amorous
glow.
One could write a volume on eagerness, enthusiasm and passion, satisfaction
and dissatisfaction. Life, to be worth the living, must have its enthusiasms,
must swing constantly from desire to satisfaction, or else seems void
and painful. Great purposes are the surest to maintain enthusiasm, little
purposes become flat. He who hitches his wagon to a star must risk indeed,
but there is a thrill to his life outweighing the joy of minor success.
To reenthuse the apathetic is an individual problem. When the lowered
pressure of the energy feeling is physical in origin, then rest and
exercise, massage hydrotherapy, medicines (especially the bitter tonics),
change of scene are valuable. And even where the cause is not in illness,
these procedures have great value for in stimulating the organism the
function of enthusiasm is recharged. But one does not neglect the value
of new hopes, new interests, friendship, physical pleasure and above
all a new philosophy, a philosophy based on readjustment and the nobility
of struggle. Not all people can thus be reached, for in some, perhaps
many cases, the loss of these desires is the beginning of mental disease,
but patient effort and intelligent sympathetic understanding still work
their miracles.
CHAPTER XI. THE EVOLUTION OF CHARACTER WITH ESPECIAL REFERENCE TO
THE GROWTH OF PURPOSE AND PERSONALITY
There have been various philosophies dealing with the purposes of man.
Man seeks this or that--the eternal good, beauty, happiness, pleasure,
survival--but always he is represented as a seeker. A very popular doctrine,
Hedonism, now somewhat in disfavor, represents him as seeking pleasurable,
affective states. The difficulty of understanding the essential nature
of pleasure and pain, the fact that what is pleasure to one man is pain
to another, rather discredited this as a psychological explanation.
I think we may phrase the situation fairly on an empirical basis when
we say that seeking arises in instinct but receives its impulse to continuity
by some agreeable affective state of satisfaction. Man steers towards
pleasure and satisfaction of some type or other, but the force is the
unbalance of an instinct.
When we speak of man as a seeker, we are not separating him from the
rest of living things. All life seeks, and the more mobile a living
thing is the more it seeks. A sessile mussel chained to a rock seeks
little but the fundamentals of nutrition and generation and these in
a simple way. An animal that builds habitations for its young, courts
its mate, plays, teaches and fights, may do nothing more than seek nutrition
and generation, but it seeks these through many intermediary "end"
points, through many impulses, and thus it has many types of satisfaction.
When a creature develops to the point that it establishes all kinds
of rules governing conduct, when it establishes sanctions that are eternal
and has purposes that have a terminus in a hereafter which is out of
the span of life of the planner, it becomes quite difficult to say just
what it is man seeks. In fact, every man seeks many things, many satisfactions,
and whatever it may be that Man in the abstract seeks, individual men
differ very decidedly not only as to what they seek but as to what should
be sought.
Our viscera, our tissues, as they function, change by the using up of
energy and the breaking down of materials. That change brings about
sensory disturbances in our body which are not unpleasant in moderation,
which we call hunger, thirst and fatigue. To relieve these three primitive
states we seek food, drink and rest; we DESIRE food, drink and rest.
Desire then is primitive, organic, arising mainly in the vegetative
nervous system, and it awakens mechanisms that bring us food, drink
and rest. A feeling which we call satisfaction results when the changes
in the viscera and tissues are readjusted or on the way to readjustment.
Here is the simplest paradigm for desire seeking satisfaction, but it
is on a plane rarely found in man, because his life is too complicated
for such formulae to work.
Food must be bought or produced, and this involves cooperation, competition,
self-denial, thrift, science, finance, invention. It involves ethics,
because though you are hungry you must not steal food or give improper
value for it. Moreover, though you are hungry, you have developed tastes,
manners, etc., and you cannot, must not eat this or that (through religion);
you mast eat with certain implements), and would rather die than violate
the established standards in such matters.[1] Thus to the simple act
of eating, to the satisfaction of a primitive desire set up by a primitive
need, there are any number of obstacles set up by the complexities of
our social existence. The sanction of these obstacles, their power to
influence us, rests in other desires and purposes arising out of other
"needs" of our nature. What are those needs? They are inherent
in what has been called the social instincts, in that side of our nature
which makes us yearn for approval and swings us into conformity with
a group. The group organizes the activities of its individuals just
as an individual organizes his activities. The evolutionists explain
this group feeling as part of the equipment necessary for survival.
Perhaps this is an adequate account of the situation, but the strength
of the social instincts almost lead one to a more mystical explanation,
a sort of acceptance of the group as the unit and the individual as
an incomplete fragment.
[1] The Sepoy Rebellion had its roots in a food taboo,
and Mussulman, Hebrew and Roman Catholic place a religious value on
diet. Most of the complexities of existence are of our own creation.
What is true of
hunger is true of thirst and fatigue. Desires in these directions have
to accommodate themselves, in greater or lesser degrees, to the complexities
in which our social nature and customs have involved us. It is true
that desires upon which the actual survival of the individual depend
will finally break through taboo and restriction if completely balked.
That is, very few people will actually starve to death, die of thirst
or keep awake indefinitely, despite any convention or taboo. Nevertheless
there are people who will resist these fundamental desires, as in the
case of MacSwiney, the Irish republican, and as in the case of martyrs
recorded in the history of all peoples. It may be that in some of these
we are dealing with a powerful inhibition of appetite of the kind seen
in anhedonia.
The elaboration of the sex impulses and desires into the purposes of
marriage, the repression into lifelong continence and chastity, forms
one of the most marvelous of chapters in the psychological history of
man. The desire for sex relationship of the crude kind is very variable
both in force, time of appearance and reaction to discipline and unquestionably
arises from the changes in the sex organs. Both to enhance and repress
it are aims of the culture and custom of each group, and the lower groups
have given actual sexual intercourse a mystical supernatural value that
has at times and in various places raised it into the basis of cults
and religions. Repressed, hampered, canalized, forbidden, the sex impulses
have profoundly modified clothes, art, religion, morals and philosophy.
The sex customs of any nation demonstrate the extreme plasticity of
human desires and the various twists, turns and customs that tradition
declares holy. There have been whole groups of people that have deemed
any sexual pleasure unholy, and the great religions still deem it necessary
for their leaders to be continent. And the absurdities of modesty, a
modified sex impulse, have made it immoral for a woman to show her leg
above the calf while in her street clothes,[1] though she may wear a
bathing suit without reproach.
[1] This is, of course, not quite so true in 1921
as in 1910.
Whatever a desire is basically, it tends quickly to organize itself
in character. It gathers to itself emotions, sentiments, intelligence;
it plans and it wills, it battles against other desires. I say IT, as
if the desire were an entity, a personality, but what I mean is that
the somatic and cerebral activities of a desire become so organized
as to operate as a unit. A permanent excitability of these nervous centers
as a unit is engendered, and these are easily aroused either by a stimulus
from the body or from without. Thus the sex impulse arises directly
from tensions within the sex organs but is built up and elaborated by
approval of and admiration for beauty, strength and intelligence, by
the desire for possession and mastery, by competitive feeling, until
it may become drawn out into the elaborate purpose of marriage or the
family.
What is the ego that desires and plans? I do not know, but if it is
in any part a metaphysical entity of permanent nature in so far it does
not become the subject matter of this book. For as a metaphysical entity
it is uncontrollable, and the object of science is to discover and utilize
the controllable elements of the world. I may point out that even those
philosophers and theologians to whom the ego is an entity of supernatural
origin deny their own standpoint every time they seek to convince, persuade
or force the ego of some one to a new belief or new line of action;
deny it every time they say, "I am tired and I shall rest; then
I shall think better and can plan better." Such a philosopher says
in essence, "I have an entity within me totally and incommensurably
different from my body," and then he goes on to prove that this
entity operates better when the body is rested and fed than otherwise!
For us the ego is a built-up structure and has its evolution from the
diffuse state of early infancy to the intense, well-defined state of
maturity; it is elaborated by a process that is in part due to the environment,
in part to the inherent structure of man. We may postulate a continuous
excitement of nerve centers as its basis, and this excitement cognizes
other excitement in some mysterious manner, but no more mysterious than
life, instinct or intelligence are. These excitements struggle for the
possession of an outlet in action, and this is what we call competing
desires, struggle against temptation, etc.
Sometimes one desire is identified with the ego as part of itself, sometimes
the desire is contrasted with the ego and we say, "I struggled
with the desire but it overcame me." Common language plainly shows
the plurality of the personality, even though the man on the street
thinks of himself as a united "I," even an invisible "I."
One of the fundamental desires, nay the fundamental desire, is the expansion
of the self, i. e., increased self-esteem. When the infant sprawls in
his basket after his arrival in this world, it is doubtful if he has
a "me" which he separates from the "non-me." Yet
that same infant, a few years later, and through the rest of his life,
believes that in his personality resides something immortal, and has
as his prime pleasure the feeling of worth and growth of that personality,
and as his worst hurt the feeling of decay and inferiority of that personality.
Let us watch that infant as it sprawls in its little bed, the darling
of a pair of worshiping parents. In that relationship the child is no
solitary individual; society is there already, watching him, nourishing
and teaching him. Already he is in the, hands of his group who, though
seeking his happiness, are nevertheless determined that he shall obtain
it their way. And from then to the end of his life that group will in
large measure offer him the criteria of values, and his self-esteem
will, in the majority of cases, rest upon his idea of their esteem of
him. In the brooding mother, in the tender father lie dormant all the
judgments of the time on the conduct and guiding motives of the little
one.
The baby throws his arms about, kicks his legs, rolls his eyes. In these
movements arising from internal activities which, we can only state,
relate to vascular distribution, neuronic relations, visceral and endocrinic
activities, is the germ of the impulse to activity which it is the function
of society and the individual himself to shape into organized useful
work. Thus is manifested a native, inherent, potentiality, which we
may call the energy of the baby, the energy of man, a something which
the environment shapes, but which is created in the laboratory of the
individual. The father and mother are delighted with the fine vigorous
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